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1. A pretty face and a nice figure can attract a baller. But you have to be mentally stimulating to keep the attraction strong. Have something to talk about. Be aware of current events. Stay on top of trends. Know what he is interested in so you can have intelligent conversation with him about it, creating a bond between you.

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You get access to things that most people don’t get to experience. It elevates you to a certain degree. But if you’ve never experienced the lifestyle before, how do you act once you get there?

I’m not going to give you advice on always being available to your baller, or catering to his every whim. There is nothing wrong with pleasing your partner, but it should be balanced with distance. He’s on the move, so you have to know how to deal with having space in a relationship.  You must cultivate the time you’re with him so that the space doesn’t impact the relationship.   Here are some tidbits of advice:

1. A pretty face and a nice figure can attract a baller. But you have to be mentally stimulating to keep the attraction strong. Have something to talk about. Be aware of current events. Stay on top of trends. Know what he is interested in so you can have intelligent conversation with him about it, creating a bond between you.

2. Speaking of pretty faces and nice figures, make sure you are presentable at all times. You will be arm candy and you have to look the part. Don’t wear makeup to bed, but you need to be well groomed even when dressed down.

3. Be chill, have a sense of humor. Some women are so uptight, trying too hard to fit the mold of what they think their man wants them to be like. He will be more attracted to you if you are yourself. Men know when women are being fake and trying too hard, and it turns them off. Would you want to be with someone you can’t be yourself with?

4. Take something from those experiences that being with a baller opens you up to.  A good baller will respect your savvy. Kimora Lee Simmons married Russell Simmons, the godfather of hip hop at age 18. Instead of settling for being a pampered housewife, she created Baby Phat and turned it into one of the most memorable lifestyle brands in fashion and hip hop culture. She took what she learned from Russell and made it into her own legacy.

5. Don’t be so transparent. Retain some of your mystery. When a person knows every detail about you, what else is there to know? Create intrigue. Give a little, hold back a little. Listen more than you talk. You would be surprised how much a man will open up to you.

6. Show him your independence without being emasculating. Do things out of the ordinary, and tell him about it. This doesn’t have to be extreme. It can be as simple as telling him about that amazing Korean barbeque place where you and your friends dined or skipping town and going on a road trip to a city you’ve always wanted to visit. Create experiences so you have great stories to tell. He will be intrigued by your spontaneity.

7. Don’t ask for money too soon. Establish the relationship with him, get to know him before raiding his wallet. If you are just looking for cash you should find a sugar daddy. If you are really into him, think long term benefit, not short term gain.

To date a baller, you need to be fun, interesting, and as drama free as possible. Being with you must be a place of solace for him rather than a source of stress. These men are highly sought after, but only a few women have the guts to get the glory.  Know the rules before you jump in the race!

The post Dating A Baller: 101 appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The Livedune.com service is different from other platforms that promote Instagram accounts. We don’t offer to attract new subscribers, win likes, set up auto direct and such tasks. However, this service is very relevant for users of Instagram. After all, it helps to collect accurate and detailed statistics, which contribute to the further promotion of social media accounts. In addition, LiveDune.com works with social networks through the official API, which guarantees the security of your accounts.

Try more with Livedune.com

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Key features of the service:

Benefits of Livedune:

The Livedune.com service is different from other platforms that promote Instagram accounts. We don’t offer to attract new subscribers, win likes, set up auto direct and such tasks. However, this service is very relevant for users of Instagram. After all, it helps to collect accurate and detailed statistics, which contribute to the further promotion of social media accounts. In addition, LiveDune.com works with social networks through the official API, which guarantees the security of your accounts.

Try more with Livedune.com

The post LiveDune.com – Social Media Marketing Platform – Tools for Instagram, Facebook, YouTube and Twitter appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The other day I talked to a friend who’s fallen for a guy who doesn’t like her back (and is actually dating someone else). We’ve all been there and it sucks; wanting to give someone the world and knowing they don’t feel the same. When this happens, the natural reaction is to think that giving will win […]

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The other day I talked to a friend who’s fallen for a guy who doesn’t like her back (and is actually dating someone else). We’ve all been there and it sucks; wanting to give someone the world and knowing they don’t feel the same.

When this happens, the natural reaction is to think that giving will win the person we want over. We give gifts, time, energy and even sex to people in an effort to make them like us. But if you’ve tried to seduce a girl by smothering her with attention, you know how well that works.

(Not well at all)

If you really want to make a girl fall for you, she has to make an effort to get you. The more she invests in you, the more attractive you become in her eyes. Here’s how you can make the woman – or women – you want chase you by forcing investment from her side.

We Like The People We Invest In

Many years ago, I read that doing someone a favor makes you like that person more. At the time, this made no sense. Shouldn’t we like people who give us stuff and dislike those who take from us?

Logically, this is true – and nobody likes being forced into giving too much. But if you think about it, the people we like the most are also the ones we’re deeply invested into.

We don’t like the girls who give us their affection easily; instead, we fall for the ones who make us work hard to get them.

We don’t like people who are too friendly and familiar from the get-go; we prefer to be around the people we have to win over slowly.

How about this typical situation: a guy addicted to a girl who causes him nothing but misery. We’ve all experienced this first-hand or through one of our friends. In these situations, a man will do anything to please the girl even though she might be a total jerk to him.

Why do these situations happen? Why do we get hooked on people who are bad for us and appreciate people we have to work hard to get into our lives?

The answer is simple: it’s because value is subjective. I might be a wise, valuable teacher in the eyes of a student but a jackass to a girl I hit on when she was having a bad day. Other people are only as important as we make them out to be.

So when you invest in someone – whether it’s time, money or energy doesn’t matter – your subconscious thinks: this person must be valuable if we’re being nice to them. And since value is what attracts us to other people (think groupies going wild over rockstars), we like the people we invest in.

Where Guys Screw Up

Most men, being creatures of logic, fail to grasp everything I’ve just said. They think that you win a girl over by giving, not taking.

When they begin to give too much and make a girl disinterested, they react by giving even more! Thus begins an infinite spiral of him falling deeply ever-more deeply in love while continuing to drive her away.

The way to turn this around, of course, is by forcing investment. By making a girl invest in you, you can turn any relationship into one of mutual interest – or make women chase you (take your pick).

When I say “force investment,” I’m not talking about physically forcing a chick to give you her car keys. Or holding her up at gunpoint while your buddy loads her T.V. into the trunk of your car.

Here’s how you do it.

3 Ways To Force Investment

A. Investment Through Acceptance Of Touching And Flirting

If a girl doesn’t say “no” and/or walk away in response to what you’re doing, she doesn’t mind. A disapproving look, moment of silence or temporary rejection means nothing.

So when you take a girl’s hand and she lets you without saying anything, you’re good – she doesn’t mind. If you try to kiss a girl you met at the bar, she turns her cheek but continues talking to you, you’re good – you’ll get your kiss in a different time or place.

Having explained that, understand that by accepting your touching and flirting, a girl is investing herself – just like you are by doing those things. Every time you do something new – touch her arm, hold her hand, squeeze her butt – and she lets you, she’s investing in you. She might say nothing, but her acceptance speaks volumes.

If you want to make girls chase you, add touching and flirtatious/suggestive talk to your interactions with women you like. Go slow at first – a touch on the arm here, a compliment on how great she looks there – and keep upping the ante until she’s deeply invested and interested in you.

2. Investment Through Gift-Giving And Following

The most obvious way to make someone invest in you is by encouraging them to give and do stuff. Here are some examples:

I’m sure you can come up with more ideas and apply them on your own. The point is the same: the more she gives, the more invested she becomes, the more reasons she has to fall for you.

3. Investment Through Putting Up With Your Bad Behavior

Another form of making someone invest is by being a bit cold towards them. The more bad behavior a person puts up with, the more invested they become.

I’m not telling you to become a manipulative asshole, create drama and inflict pain on other people. But we all have times when we don’t feel like talking to anyone or being nice. When that happens, don’t feel the need to fake warmth for her sake.

Instead, just be yourself. Accept that there are highs and lows in everything – including how much you want to be with other people and even the girl(s) you love.

Also, don’t make the mistake most guys make – don’t smother chicks with positivity and appreciation! We all need to hear some firm (or even harsh) words and actions from time to time. If she’s screwing up within the relationship, being disrespectful or unloving – do the natural thing and be a little cold.

As in all the previous cases, she will be investing in you simply by sticking around and, at the same time, fall more deeply in love with you.

If you can understand these basic principles and include these behaviors in your life, you will make women fall for you through investment. Once they become intensely interested you, you’ll the reverse boy-courts-girl dynamic and have women chasing you… Or simply enjoy an equal relationship where nobody has to do any chasing.

Knock yourself out and use these tools responsibly!

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The post Make Women Chase You By Forcing Investment appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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The other day I talked to a friend who’s fallen for a guy who doesn’t like her back (and is actually dating someone else). We’ve all been there and it sucks; wanting to give someone the world and knowing they don’t feel the same.

When this happens, the natural reaction is to think that giving will win the person we want over. We give gifts, time, energy and even sex to people in an effort to make them like us. But if you’ve tried to seduce a girl by smothering her with attention, you know how well that works.

(Not well at all)

If you really want to make a girl fall for you, she has to make an effort to get you. The more she invests in you, the more attractive you become in her eyes. Here’s how you can make the woman – or women – you want chase you by forcing investment from her side.

We Like The People We Invest In

Many years ago, I read that doing someone a favor makes you like that person more. At the time, this made no sense. Shouldn’t we like people who give us stuff and dislike those who take from us?

Logically, this is true – and nobody likes being forced into giving too much. But if you think about it, the people we like the most are also the ones we’re deeply invested into.

We don’t like the girls who give us their affection easily; instead, we fall for the ones who make us work hard to get them.

We don’t like people who are too friendly and familiar from the get-go; we prefer to be around the people we have to win over slowly.

How about this typical situation: a guy addicted to a girl who causes him nothing but misery. We’ve all experienced this first-hand or through one of our friends. In these situations, a man will do anything to please the girl even though she might be a total jerk to him.

Why do these situations happen? Why do we get hooked on people who are bad for us and appreciate people we have to work hard to get into our lives?

The answer is simple: it’s because value is subjective. I might be a wise, valuable teacher in the eyes of a student but a jackass to a girl I hit on when she was having a bad day. Other people are only as important as we make them out to be.

So when you invest in someone – whether it’s time, money or energy doesn’t matter – your subconscious thinks: this person must be valuable if we’re being nice to them. And since value is what attracts us to other people (think groupies going wild over rockstars), we like the people we invest in.

Where Guys Screw Up

Most men, being creatures of logic, fail to grasp everything I’ve just said. They think that you win a girl over by giving, not taking.

When they begin to give too much and make a girl disinterested, they react by giving even more! Thus begins an infinite spiral of him falling deeply ever-more deeply in love while continuing to drive her away.

The way to turn this around, of course, is by forcing investment. By making a girl invest in you, you can turn any relationship into one of mutual interest – or make women chase you (take your pick).

When I say “force investment,” I’m not talking about physically forcing a chick to give you her car keys. Or holding her up at gunpoint while your buddy loads her T.V. into the trunk of your car.

Here’s how you do it.

3 Ways To Force Investment

A. Investment Through Acceptance Of Touching And Flirting

If a girl doesn’t say “no” and/or walk away in response to what you’re doing, she doesn’t mind. A disapproving look, moment of silence or temporary rejection means nothing.

So when you take a girl’s hand and she lets you without saying anything, you’re good – she doesn’t mind. If you try to kiss a girl you met at the bar, she turns her cheek but continues talking to you, you’re good – you’ll get your kiss in a different time or place.

Having explained that, understand that by accepting your touching and flirting, a girl is investing herself – just like you are by doing those things. Every time you do something new – touch her arm, hold her hand, squeeze her butt – and she lets you, she’s investing in you. She might say nothing, but her acceptance speaks volumes.

If you want to make girls chase you, add touching and flirtatious/suggestive talk to your interactions with women you like. Go slow at first – a touch on the arm here, a compliment on how great she looks there – and keep upping the ante until she’s deeply invested and interested in you.

2. Investment Through Gift-Giving And Following

The most obvious way to make someone invest in you is by encouraging them to give and do stuff. Here are some examples:

I’m sure you can come up with more ideas and apply them on your own. The point is the same: the more she gives, the more invested she becomes, the more reasons she has to fall for you.

3. Investment Through Putting Up With Your Bad Behavior

Another form of making someone invest is by being a bit cold towards them. The more bad behavior a person puts up with, the more invested they become.

I’m not telling you to become a manipulative asshole, create drama and inflict pain on other people. But we all have times when we don’t feel like talking to anyone or being nice. When that happens, don’t feel the need to fake warmth for her sake.

Instead, just be yourself. Accept that there are highs and lows in everything – including how much you want to be with other people and even the girl(s) you love.

Also, don’t make the mistake most guys make – don’t smother chicks with positivity and appreciation! We all need to hear some firm (or even harsh) words and actions from time to time. If she’s screwing up within the relationship, being disrespectful or unloving – do the natural thing and be a little cold.

As in all the previous cases, she will be investing in you simply by sticking around and, at the same time, fall more deeply in love with you.

If you can understand these basic principles and include these behaviors in your life, you will make women fall for you through investment. Once they become intensely interested you, you’ll the reverse boy-courts-girl dynamic and have women chasing you… Or simply enjoy an equal relationship where nobody has to do any chasing.

Knock yourself out and use these tools responsibly!

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To a man romantically interested in a woman, few phrases are harder to hear than “let’s just be friends.” It’s a rejection made even more painful because it creates a glimmer of hope, giving no closure but leving many questions. Does she really want to be friends? Will she eventually see how good you’d be together if […]

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To a man romantically interested in a woman, few phrases are harder to hear than “let’s just be friends.” It’s a rejection made even more painful because it creates a glimmer of hope, giving no closure but leving many questions.

Does she really want to be friends? Will she eventually see how good you’d be together if you stay friends? What does the phrase really mean and what’s the best way to respond?

With this post, I’d like to end all speculation and answer these questions once and for all.

What “Let’s Just Be Friends” Really Means

So you start hitting on a girl you like, but at some point get rejected with some version of “let’s just be friends.” Common variations include:

Women use lines like these to say “No” without hurting a guy’s feelings too much. The problem is, none of these phrases make it 100% clear that a girl’s not interested – or why she’s not into you. And without closure, it’s easy to get stuck in emotional limbo.

If you’re so nice, why won’t she see you? If she likes you enough to be friends, why won’t she give dating a chance? What’s really going on and is there anything you can do?

These are all good questions, and I hear them often from my clients. I usually respond with a question of my own:

What would she do if you were Brad Pitt?

She’d make time; risk your friendship; get over her ex in a heartbeat. If you were a man of extremely high value, she’d be chasing you instead of blowing you off. So every time you hear “Let’s just be friends” or a variation thereof, you’re really hearing: “You’re not attractive to me as a man.”

It hurts to face the truth, but at least it’s better than not knowing. So why don’t girls just blow us off directly, cutting us loose and allowing us to get closure immediately?

Why Girls Do It

You might think that girls are protecting us with these indirect, ambiguous rejections – at least, that’s the explanation my lady friends usually give me after Let’s Just Be Friend’ing some poor schmuck. But the reality is, they’re protecting themselves.

Humans are social beings, and we dread rejecting and breaking up with others – even when necessary. It makes us feel bad about ourselves and girls don’t want to feel like jerks by blowing guys off directly. It’s easier to say “Let’s just be friends” than “You don’t attract me as a man.”

Sometimes, there’s more than just the ego at stake. You might be unattractive sexually, but offer something else: gifts, attention, a self-esteem boost, help with her chores… There’s no reason to cut you off completely when you could still be useful. It sounds rough, but humans are value-seekers and there’s no point in severing ties with someone who can offer you something.

Of course, it’s actually best to reject someone completely so they can get closure and move on. Leading someone on – even a little bit – is selfish, and doesn’t protect anyone’s feelings in the long run. If a person really cares about you, they won’t make excuses for not wanting a romantic relationship – they’ll tell you the truth. Keep that in mind if you ever think someone’s being nice by using “Let’s Just Be Friends”-type lines.

So ladies, if you’re reading this – when you don’t like a guy, make it very clear that you’re not interested. This makes it easy for him to move on and means you won’t have to deal with him pursuing you to the point of annoyance.

Guys, if you’re reading this – when a girl says, “Let’s just be friends,” get the hint. She doesn’t want to be friends, she’s not busy and it’s not because she doesn’t want to risk your current relationship – she’s just not that into you. Don’t delude yourself.

Remember: honesty is the best policy and ensures nobody gets hurt. If you don’t like someone, leave them no hope; be 100% clear, regardless of your sex.

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To a man romantically interested in a woman, few phrases are harder to hear than “let’s just be friends.” It’s a rejection made even more painful because it creates a glimmer of hope, giving no closure but leving many questions. Does she really want to be friends? Will she eventually see how good you’d be together if […]

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To a man romantically interested in a woman, few phrases are harder to hear than “let’s just be friends.” It’s a rejection made even more painful because it creates a glimmer of hope, giving no closure but leving many questions.

Does she really want to be friends? Will she eventually see how good you’d be together if you stay friends? What does the phrase really mean and what’s the best way to respond?

With this post, I’d like to end all speculation and answer these questions once and for all.

What “Let’s Just Be Friends” Really Means

So you start hitting on a girl you like, but at some point get rejected with some version of “let’s just be friends.” Common variations include:

Women use lines like these to say “No” without hurting a guy’s feelings too much. The problem is, none of these phrases make it 100% clear that a girl’s not interested – or why she’s not into you. And without closure, it’s easy to get stuck in emotional limbo.

If you’re so nice, why won’t she see you? If she likes you enough to be friends, why won’t she give dating a chance? What’s really going on and is there anything you can do?

These are all good questions, and I hear them often from my clients. I usually respond with a question of my own:

What would she do if you were Brad Pitt?

She’d make time; risk your friendship; get over her ex in a heartbeat. If you were a man of extremely high value, she’d be chasing you instead of blowing you off. So every time you hear “Let’s just be friends” or a variation thereof, you’re really hearing: “You’re not attractive to me as a man.”

It hurts to face the truth, but at least it’s better than not knowing. So why don’t girls just blow us off directly, cutting us loose and allowing us to get closure immediately?

Why Girls Do It

You might think that girls are protecting us with these indirect, ambiguous rejections – at least, that’s the explanation my lady friends usually give me after Let’s Just Be Friend’ing some poor schmuck. But the reality is, they’re protecting themselves.

Humans are social beings, and we dread rejecting and breaking up with others – even when necessary. It makes us feel bad about ourselves and girls don’t want to feel like jerks by blowing guys off directly. It’s easier to say “Let’s just be friends” than “You don’t attract me as a man.”

Sometimes, there’s more than just the ego at stake. You might be unattractive sexually, but offer something else: gifts, attention, a self-esteem boost, help with her chores… There’s no reason to cut you off completely when you could still be useful. It sounds rough, but humans are value-seekers and there’s no point in severing ties with someone who can offer you something.

Of course, it’s actually best to reject someone completely so they can get closure and move on. Leading someone on – even a little bit – is selfish, and doesn’t protect anyone’s feelings in the long run. If a person really cares about you, they won’t make excuses for not wanting a romantic relationship – they’ll tell you the truth. Keep that in mind if you ever think someone’s being nice by using “Let’s Just Be Friends”-type lines.

So ladies, if you’re reading this – when you don’t like a guy, make it very clear that you’re not interested. This makes it easy for him to move on and means you won’t have to deal with him pursuing you to the point of annoyance.

Guys, if you’re reading this – when a girl says, “Let’s just be friends,” get the hint. She doesn’t want to be friends, she’s not busy and it’s not because she doesn’t want to risk your current relationship – she’s just not that into you. Don’t delude yourself.

Remember: honesty is the best policy and ensures nobody gets hurt. If you don’t like someone, leave them no hope; be 100% clear, regardless of your sex.

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Most people fail in their goals. After a while, that cake seems extra tasty; the mountain starts looking real tall; money, you realize, isn’t all that important. This is when you have a choice to make. Will you buck up, do what it takes and come out victorious like the legend I know you to […]

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Most people fail in their goals. After a while, that cake seems extra tasty; the mountain starts looking real tall; money, you realize, isn’t all that important.

This is when you have a choice to make. Will you buck up, do what it takes and come out victorious like the legend I know you to be? Or are you going to give up at the first sight of trouble like most people do?

In other words, are you ready to pay up for the things you want?

Hold on – what do you mean, “Pay”?

As a kid, I never had to work hard. My parents didn’t push me to do better at school or in sports; I didn’t have to think about money. I had no reason to work for anything – and so I didn’t.

Then I watched Cruel Intentions. After seeing Sebastian – the womanizing protagonist – I knew I wanted women to be a major part of my life.

(Or, as the 13-year me thought, holy shit! This guy is getting all the girls! I WANT THAT!)

That was the first time I passionately wanted something I didn’t have. But, being an idiot, I did nothing about it for another 8 years.

Like most people, I wasn’t ready to pay the price.

See, the price of success isn’t just the things you need to do. It’salso everything you give up, sacrifice and endure to get what you want.

For example, the real price of weight loss is paid each time you deny yourself the food you want; each time your hunger pangs keep you up at night; each time you feel like staying in but go to the gym anyway. It’s not as simple as buying the right books or eating less.

The price of finding a new job is leaving your old one behind.

The price of leaving the city you hate is losing friends.

The price of reading a book is sacrificing quality T.V. time.

In other words, everything we want has a price: nothing in this world is free.

The problems start when people disrespect this simple life rule by refusing to pay up. This happens for many reasons:

In the end, the reasons don’t matter. What matters is this: when the price of success becomes is too high, the end result is always failure.

Commit To Pay The Price – Or Don’t Bother Showing Up

Let’s go back to my teen self. After watching Cruel Intentions I forgot about being good with women for a number of years. Then, around 2008, I decided it was time for a change – so I swallowed my ego and signed up for some dating courses.

At the time, I was lonely so I told myself I’d do anything to succeed. Face rejection, endure humiliation, get mace’d: whatever it took to get one great girl to like me.

And this attitude saved me.

Think about it: Most people can’t even handle 1 rejection, let alone getting blown off 10 times each day. Dealing with hurt, heartbreak and loneliness is hard. That’s why most guys leave “The Game” as fast as they came in.

But since I was prepared to deal with all those challenges on a constant basis and pay the price, I persevered and succeeded.

Most people’s circumstances are different. Only those who’ve hit rock bottom are ready to do anything to make a change.

Sure, we all talk pretty about what we’re going to do. We buy all the right books and give it our best shot. Sometimes, we even start seeing progress. But in the end we usually give up.

I think this is worse than doing nothing. It means you’ve invested your time and energy with zero giveback. It’s like getting out of the house, walking to the gym, loading up the barbell and saying “screw it” – a huge waste of time.

So don’t spend yourself needlessly on goals you won’t achieve anyway.

Don’t be the guy who dabbles in this and that his whole life, never accomplishing anything. Look at all the crap that you never use in your garage and resolve to never add more books or equipment to that sad collection of shame.

Know what you want. Estimate what the price is in time, energy and emotions. Then ask yourself if you’re ready to pay up.

If you are, great – you’re mentally prepared to deal with anything that comes your way. You’ll get what you want and nothing can stop you.

But if the price is too high, that’s fine too. There’s no shame in knowing what you are and aren’t prepared to pay for. It’s better to give up goals that don’t matter than waste time on them.

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Most people fail in their goals. After a while, that cake seems extra tasty; the mountain starts looking real tall; money, you realize, isn’t all that important. This is when you have a choice to make. Will you buck up, do what it takes and come out victorious like the legend I know you to […]

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Most people fail in their goals. After a while, that cake seems extra tasty; the mountain starts looking real tall; money, you realize, isn’t all that important.

This is when you have a choice to make. Will you buck up, do what it takes and come out victorious like the legend I know you to be? Or are you going to give up at the first sight of trouble like most people do?

In other words, are you ready to pay up for the things you want?

Hold on – what do you mean, “Pay”?

As a kid, I never had to work hard. My parents didn’t push me to do better at school or in sports; I didn’t have to think about money. I had no reason to work for anything – and so I didn’t.

Then I watched Cruel Intentions. After seeing Sebastian – the womanizing protagonist – I knew I wanted women to be a major part of my life.

(Or, as the 13-year me thought, holy shit! This guy is getting all the girls! I WANT THAT!)

That was the first time I passionately wanted something I didn’t have. But, being an idiot, I did nothing about it for another 8 years.

Like most people, I wasn’t ready to pay the price.

See, the price of success isn’t just the things you need to do. It’salso everything you give up, sacrifice and endure to get what you want.

For example, the real price of weight loss is paid each time you deny yourself the food you want; each time your hunger pangs keep you up at night; each time you feel like staying in but go to the gym anyway. It’s not as simple as buying the right books or eating less.

The price of finding a new job is leaving your old one behind.

The price of leaving the city you hate is losing friends.

The price of reading a book is sacrificing quality T.V. time.

In other words, everything we want has a price: nothing in this world is free.

The problems start when people disrespect this simple life rule by refusing to pay up. This happens for many reasons:

In the end, the reasons don’t matter. What matters is this: when the price of success becomes is too high, the end result is always failure.

Commit To Pay The Price – Or Don’t Bother Showing Up

Let’s go back to my teen self. After watching Cruel Intentions I forgot about being good with women for a number of years. Then, around 2008, I decided it was time for a change – so I swallowed my ego and signed up for some dating courses.

At the time, I was lonely so I told myself I’d do anything to succeed. Face rejection, endure humiliation, get mace’d: whatever it took to get one great girl to like me.

And this attitude saved me.

Think about it: Most people can’t even handle 1 rejection, let alone getting blown off 10 times each day. Dealing with hurt, heartbreak and loneliness is hard. That’s why most guys leave “The Game” as fast as they came in.

But since I was prepared to deal with all those challenges on a constant basis and pay the price, I persevered and succeeded.

Most people’s circumstances are different. Only those who’ve hit rock bottom are ready to do anything to make a change.

Sure, we all talk pretty about what we’re going to do. We buy all the right books and give it our best shot. Sometimes, we even start seeing progress. But in the end we usually give up.

I think this is worse than doing nothing. It means you’ve invested your time and energy with zero giveback. It’s like getting out of the house, walking to the gym, loading up the barbell and saying “screw it” – a huge waste of time.

So don’t spend yourself needlessly on goals you won’t achieve anyway.

Don’t be the guy who dabbles in this and that his whole life, never accomplishing anything. Look at all the crap that you never use in your garage and resolve to never add more books or equipment to that sad collection of shame.

Know what you want. Estimate what the price is in time, energy and emotions. Then ask yourself if you’re ready to pay up.

If you are, great – you’re mentally prepared to deal with anything that comes your way. You’ll get what you want and nothing can stop you.

But if the price is too high, that’s fine too. There’s no shame in knowing what you are and aren’t prepared to pay for. It’s better to give up goals that don’t matter than waste time on them.

The post Are You Ready To Pay Up For The Things You Want? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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Unless you live in the Southern hemisphere, it’s Autumn; everything outside is wet, dark and cold. Most people are feeling lethargic and staying in a lot. As loneliness begins to creep in, singles start looking for someone special to spend these cold months with; thus, cuffing season begins. Cuffing season is when people – even […]

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Unless you live in the Southern hemisphere, it’s Autumn; everything outside is wet, dark and cold. Most people are feeling lethargic and staying in a lot. As loneliness begins to creep in, singles start looking for someone special to spend these cold months with; thus, cuffing season begins.

Cuffing season is when people – even those who generally prefer to be single or promiscuous – start looking for someone to commit to (or cuff) during the Autumn/Winter months. It’s a good time to settle down in a relationship because:

Since this means a lot of you will start seeing someone over the next few months, I want to talk about a few common mistakes that wreck relationships before they even start. Here are 5 reasons your next relationship’s will fail – unless you fix what you’re doing wrong and correct course.

1.    You’re Expecting Change

When you meet someone amazing, it’s tempting to overlook the things you don’t like about them. “Everything is going so well,” you think; “who cares if she’s needy/moody/emotionally unavailable? We’ll adjust to each other and make it work.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how things usually go. People rarely change and little differences turn into huge disagreements over time. If you’re starting to see a girl, don’t expect her to become someone different later; what you see is what you get!

Sure, she might change when you get serious, she might change when you get married, but in reality she might never change. The things you hate about her are here to stay. To save everyone the trouble, make sure you can put up with her flaws before committing.

2.    You’re Not Expressing Your Wants

Haven’t we all expected something without directly asking for it in at least one relationship? And haven’t we all been in the opposite situation, trying to figure out what it is the other person wants? I’m guessing yes and yes!

It’s easy to assume that your girlfriend has the same values as you; that she understands your wants and needs instinctively. But unless you’ve known someone for a long time, this is rarely the case – different people have different expectations and standards.

If you’re not getting what you want out of your relationship, it’s not necessarily because she’s selfish. She could just be unsure of what you like. Help her figure out how to please you by being clear and honest about your wants!

 3.    You Take Everything Personally

When you just start dating someone, everything outside of the relationship becomes secondary. You’re completely focused on the person you’re seeing; it’s all about the two of you. For a lot of men, this turns into a borderline obsession.

If their girlfriend is silent, they assume it’s their fault. If she’s pouting, they wonder if they did something to upset her. If she leaves her phone in the locker room and doesn’t pick up for two hours, they feel like she did it just to spite them. In short, they take everything personally.

Well, things aren’t always about you. Your girlfriend’s going to have problems that have nothing to do with you; she might hurt you by accident, especially if you didn’t make your wants clear. Very often, things will happen for no reason at all; that’s life!

If you take stuff personally, every little thing will turn a source of drama. Never forget that life is largely unpredictable, and that your partner’s behavior isn’t always about you.

 4.    You’re Not Making an Effort

No matter what Hallmark and Disney want us to think, nothing just lasts forever – not even love. To keep a good thing going, you’ve got to make a consistent effort.

Many guys forget this during the emotional peaks of a relationship’s honeymoon phase. Finally together with the girl they want, they think the hard work’s over and relax. Then, slowly, they let themselves go in every possible way: romance, looks, attentiveness, etc.

If that happens, it’s game over. You can’t expect a girl to feel the same way about you once you get a gut and start forgetting her birthdays. Keeping a woman means winning her over every day of your relationship; always try for her, no matter how long you’ve been together.

 5.    You Can’t Sacrifice

Being in a team, company or friendship is fundamentally about surrendering individual freedom and success for the group’s. Any entity of more than two people requires sacrifice to create and maintain – and this includes romantic relationships.

Unless you’re perfectly in-sync with your partner, you’ll both have to put “I” second to “Us” for things to work. This means taking the other person into account and catering to their needs. If you always think about yourself first, the relationship will ultimately fail.

I’m not saying you should give things up all the time. Draw a line in the sand; if your relationship becomes too demanding, give it up. But so long as staying with your girlfriend is more important than getting your way, be prepared to sacrifice.

Now you know why most relationships fail; go out there and be a champion this cuffing season!

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Unless you live in the Southern hemisphere, it’s Autumn; everything outside is wet, dark and cold. Most people are feeling lethargic and staying in a lot. As loneliness begins to creep in, singles start looking for someone special to spend these cold months with; thus, cuffing season begins. Cuffing season is when people – even […]

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Unless you live in the Southern hemisphere, it’s Autumn; everything outside is wet, dark and cold. Most people are feeling lethargic and staying in a lot. As loneliness begins to creep in, singles start looking for someone special to spend these cold months with; thus, cuffing season begins.

Cuffing season is when people – even those who generally prefer to be single or promiscuous – start looking for someone to commit to (or cuff) during the Autumn/Winter months. It’s a good time to settle down in a relationship because:

Since this means a lot of you will start seeing someone over the next few months, I want to talk about a few common mistakes that wreck relationships before they even start. Here are 5 reasons your next relationship’s will fail – unless you fix what you’re doing wrong and correct course.

1.    You’re Expecting Change

When you meet someone amazing, it’s tempting to overlook the things you don’t like about them. “Everything is going so well,” you think; “who cares if she’s needy/moody/emotionally unavailable? We’ll adjust to each other and make it work.”

Unfortunately, that’s not how things usually go. People rarely change and little differences turn into huge disagreements over time. If you’re starting to see a girl, don’t expect her to become someone different later; what you see is what you get!

Sure, she might change when you get serious, she might change when you get married, but in reality she might never change. The things you hate about her are here to stay. To save everyone the trouble, make sure you can put up with her flaws before committing.

2.    You’re Not Expressing Your Wants

Haven’t we all expected something without directly asking for it in at least one relationship? And haven’t we all been in the opposite situation, trying to figure out what it is the other person wants? I’m guessing yes and yes!

It’s easy to assume that your girlfriend has the same values as you; that she understands your wants and needs instinctively. But unless you’ve known someone for a long time, this is rarely the case – different people have different expectations and standards.

If you’re not getting what you want out of your relationship, it’s not necessarily because she’s selfish. She could just be unsure of what you like. Help her figure out how to please you by being clear and honest about your wants!

 3.    You Take Everything Personally

When you just start dating someone, everything outside of the relationship becomes secondary. You’re completely focused on the person you’re seeing; it’s all about the two of you. For a lot of men, this turns into a borderline obsession.

If their girlfriend is silent, they assume it’s their fault. If she’s pouting, they wonder if they did something to upset her. If she leaves her phone in the locker room and doesn’t pick up for two hours, they feel like she did it just to spite them. In short, they take everything personally.

Well, things aren’t always about you. Your girlfriend’s going to have problems that have nothing to do with you; she might hurt you by accident, especially if you didn’t make your wants clear. Very often, things will happen for no reason at all; that’s life!

If you take stuff personally, every little thing will turn a source of drama. Never forget that life is largely unpredictable, and that your partner’s behavior isn’t always about you.

 4.    You’re Not Making an Effort

No matter what Hallmark and Disney want us to think, nothing just lasts forever – not even love. To keep a good thing going, you’ve got to make a consistent effort.

Many guys forget this during the emotional peaks of a relationship’s honeymoon phase. Finally together with the girl they want, they think the hard work’s over and relax. Then, slowly, they let themselves go in every possible way: romance, looks, attentiveness, etc.

If that happens, it’s game over. You can’t expect a girl to feel the same way about you once you get a gut and start forgetting her birthdays. Keeping a woman means winning her over every day of your relationship; always try for her, no matter how long you’ve been together.

 5.    You Can’t Sacrifice

Being in a team, company or friendship is fundamentally about surrendering individual freedom and success for the group’s. Any entity of more than two people requires sacrifice to create and maintain – and this includes romantic relationships.

Unless you’re perfectly in-sync with your partner, you’ll both have to put “I” second to “Us” for things to work. This means taking the other person into account and catering to their needs. If you always think about yourself first, the relationship will ultimately fail.

I’m not saying you should give things up all the time. Draw a line in the sand; if your relationship becomes too demanding, give it up. But so long as staying with your girlfriend is more important than getting your way, be prepared to sacrifice.

Now you know why most relationships fail; go out there and be a champion this cuffing season!

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You meet a girl you like; digits are exchanged. Not wanting to telegraph too much attention, you play it cool and send a message. Then, horror of horrors: there’s no reply! Minutes pass, then hours. Suddenly, you’re asking yourself all sorts of uncomfortable questions. Why hasn’t she answered? Has she seen your message? What if something […]

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You meet a girl you like; digits are exchanged. Not wanting to telegraph too much attention, you play it cool and send a message. Then, horror of horrors: there’s no reply!

Minutes pass, then hours. Suddenly, you’re asking yourself all sorts of uncomfortable questions. Why hasn’t she answered? Has she seen your message? What if something you said turned her off?

Texting can be useful, but mostly it’s a great way to make sure you never go on a date that cute girl you met earlier. In this post, I’m going to explain why you should minimize texting when dating, when it’s okay to use it and how to minimize damage once you’ve screwed up.

This guy didn’t stop texting. Now he’s paying the price.

Texting & Mind Games

The worst thing about texting is how easily it can mess with your mind. Every time you send a message, the ball is in Her court: she may or may not reply. If she doesn’t, there’s no way for you to find out why. There could be a completely harmless reason, but not receiving an answer for ages will still throw you off your game. If she doesn’t reply at all, you’ll feel like a tool when you initiate contact again.

It’s a lose-lose situation you don’t want to be in and yet you’re asking for it every time you text instead of calling. Remember: there are many reasons for messages to go unread or unanswered. Phones and networks aren’t error-proof; an SMS can arrive many hours late or never at all. Even if the message is read, a girl might be busy, in a bad mood or out of credit. Later, she’ll forget about your message and never call back.

So just skip the mind games and make a simple phone call.

Texting & Attraction

Going on a date with someone is a bigger commitment than giving them your number and requires more trust & attraction. Unfortunately, texting offers few chances to generate either. If you didn’t impress a girl when you were asking for her number, you’re unlikely to make up for it with an SMS; there’s just too little space to show her how charming you can be.

Texting also robs you of the ability to convey and gauge emotions; emoticons and LoLs are no replacement for the tone of someone’s voice. This is especially true if you’re talking to a new person. Misread a girl and you’ll miss opportunities to generate attractionGet misread, and you might offend her with a misunderstood joke or remark.

Also, a few words on tension. Generating it by playing a little mysterious and hard-to-get is a classic move, and a great way to build attraction. But when you text someone too often, the opportunity to create that tension is lost. Don’t let that happen.

Texts & Flaking

If a girl hasn’t decided whether she wants to go on a date or not, it’s easy for her to flake by not replying to a text message. Women are whimsical to begin with, so why create an opportunity to miss a date with the great guy you undoubtedly are? Make a phone call, and it’ll be a lot easier for her to say “Yes” and give you a shot.

When To Text

Unless you’ve known someone for a while, avoid texting. You’re only allowed to text if you don’t need a reply or really can’t make a phone call.

Example: you exchanged numbers with a cute girl? Text her about something you discussed earlier – e.g. just saw that new movie we were talking about, it’s AMAZING!

Doing this will generate a bit of comfort and remind her of you. Being flirty and funny is a big bonus, but always remember that it’s easy(ish) to strike out when texting. If you’ve been on a few dates already, you can be a little more intimate and romantic.

Texts are also very convenient for confirming the details of a date before going on it. Most people can’t freely make phone calls when they’re at work, so a quick message can be a life-saver. But regardless of how long you’ve been dating, keep your texts short and simple.

Damage Control

Let’s say you texted someone and never got a reply. Regardless of the reason, there’s only one real way to bounce back: by making a phone call. When you make the call, do not refer to your previous text message being unanswered: this will only draw unwanted attention to it and make you look needy. Just be smooth and you’ll do awesome.

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You meet a girl you like; digits are exchanged. Not wanting to telegraph too much attention, you play it cool and send a message. Then, horror of horrors: there’s no reply! Minutes pass, then hours. Suddenly, you’re asking yourself all sorts of uncomfortable questions. Why hasn’t she answered? Has she seen your message? What if something […]

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You meet a girl you like; digits are exchanged. Not wanting to telegraph too much attention, you play it cool and send a message. Then, horror of horrors: there’s no reply!

Minutes pass, then hours. Suddenly, you’re asking yourself all sorts of uncomfortable questions. Why hasn’t she answered? Has she seen your message? What if something you said turned her off?

Texting can be useful, but mostly it’s a great way to make sure you never go on a date that cute girl you met earlier. In this post, I’m going to explain why you should minimize texting when dating, when it’s okay to use it and how to minimize damage once you’ve screwed up.

This guy didn’t stop texting. Now he’s paying the price.

Texting & Mind Games

The worst thing about texting is how easily it can mess with your mind. Every time you send a message, the ball is in Her court: she may or may not reply. If she doesn’t, there’s no way for you to find out why. There could be a completely harmless reason, but not receiving an answer for ages will still throw you off your game. If she doesn’t reply at all, you’ll feel like a tool when you initiate contact again.

It’s a lose-lose situation you don’t want to be in and yet you’re asking for it every time you text instead of calling. Remember: there are many reasons for messages to go unread or unanswered. Phones and networks aren’t error-proof; an SMS can arrive many hours late or never at all. Even if the message is read, a girl might be busy, in a bad mood or out of credit. Later, she’ll forget about your message and never call back.

So just skip the mind games and make a simple phone call.

Texting & Attraction

Going on a date with someone is a bigger commitment than giving them your number and requires more trust & attraction. Unfortunately, texting offers few chances to generate either. If you didn’t impress a girl when you were asking for her number, you’re unlikely to make up for it with an SMS; there’s just too little space to show her how charming you can be.

Texting also robs you of the ability to convey and gauge emotions; emoticons and LoLs are no replacement for the tone of someone’s voice. This is especially true if you’re talking to a new person. Misread a girl and you’ll miss opportunities to generate attractionGet misread, and you might offend her with a misunderstood joke or remark.

Also, a few words on tension. Generating it by playing a little mysterious and hard-to-get is a classic move, and a great way to build attraction. But when you text someone too often, the opportunity to create that tension is lost. Don’t let that happen.

Texts & Flaking

If a girl hasn’t decided whether she wants to go on a date or not, it’s easy for her to flake by not replying to a text message. Women are whimsical to begin with, so why create an opportunity to miss a date with the great guy you undoubtedly are? Make a phone call, and it’ll be a lot easier for her to say “Yes” and give you a shot.

When To Text

Unless you’ve known someone for a while, avoid texting. You’re only allowed to text if you don’t need a reply or really can’t make a phone call.

Example: you exchanged numbers with a cute girl? Text her about something you discussed earlier – e.g. just saw that new movie we were talking about, it’s AMAZING!

Doing this will generate a bit of comfort and remind her of you. Being flirty and funny is a big bonus, but always remember that it’s easy(ish) to strike out when texting. If you’ve been on a few dates already, you can be a little more intimate and romantic.

Texts are also very convenient for confirming the details of a date before going on it. Most people can’t freely make phone calls when they’re at work, so a quick message can be a life-saver. But regardless of how long you’ve been dating, keep your texts short and simple.

Damage Control

Let’s say you texted someone and never got a reply. Regardless of the reason, there’s only one real way to bounce back: by making a phone call. When you make the call, do not refer to your previous text message being unanswered: this will only draw unwanted attention to it and make you look needy. Just be smooth and you’ll do awesome.

The post Text Less, Rock More Dates appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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You’re out with your friends and an absolutely stunning girl appears. As your mind scrambles for something great to say, your body freezes up. She walks by and out of your life, gone forever, while you’re left to wonder what could’ve been. I know that feeling, brother. Getting numbers is the biggest sticking point for guys […]

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You’re out with your friends and an absolutely stunning girl appears. As your mind scrambles for something great to say, your body freezes up. She walks by and out of your life, gone forever, while you’re left to wonder what could’ve been.

I know that feeling, brother.

Getting numbers is the biggest sticking point for guys who want to get good with women. They say your first million is always the hardest to make and the same is true here. When you’ve got something to work with, it’s easy to keep progressing – but if you can’t even get numbers, how can you ever get laid/find a girlfriend/work on your social skills? (underline as appropriate)

To help you out, I’ll share the easiest way to definitely get a girl’s number.

Here’s What You Have To Understand

Before I go on, you’ve got to understand and accept the following.

The general population believes that women don’t want us as much as we want them. The idea is, you have to woo a girl before she gives up her digits (or a kiss, or sex).

This is actually our fault. Traditional, male-dominated cultures have repressed female sexuality for hundreds of years, both in their minds and ours.

Why?

Because in human societies, monogamy is superior to polygamy. Over time, ancient polygamous societies had to adapt or get wiped out by monogamous ones.

To enforce monogamy – the superior survival strategy – cultures and religions evolved to encourage female “purity”. A woman who’s pure – i.e. not sexual – is less likely to leave her man or cheat while he’s away at war, hunting, etc.

So humans developed this idea of the “pure” female; the good girl who saves herself for her husband, dresses plainly and doesn’t care much for sex. This ensured monogamy and the continued survival of our race. And even today, society judges women who express their sexuality in behavior and dress.

But George… What Does Any Of This Have To Do With Getting Numbers?!

So alright; society encourages the idea of the “pure” female. The one who needs to get wooed because she doesn’t want men as much as they want her.

Problem is, every time you’re letting a beautiful girl walk by without doing anything, it’s because you actually bought into this idea; that she doesn’t want and need you as much as you want and need her.

BULLSHIT.

If you’re a man, it’d never occur to you put on your best clothes, go to the club and dance in the same spot for six hours straight. BUT WOMEN DO THIS ALL THE TIME because they’re programmed to want our attention!

They want us and want to be wanted by us. They love having us in their lives, they love being in a good man’s presence and they even love… shock, horror… SEX.

If that’s not enough good news for one day, realize that women want us so much they compete for us. This is especially true if a girl is nearing her thirties: her dating pool is shrinking every year, slowly but surely turning you into an EXTREMELY VALUABLE COMMODITY.

So unless the cutie that just walked by is already seeing someone, she’s got every reason to give you her number. The only thing you have to do is ask!

The Easiest Way To Definitely Get A Girl’s Number

  1. Walk up.
  2. Make and hold eye contact.
  3. Tell her she looks great.
  4. Ask for her number.
  5. Don’t flinch.
  6. Walk away and call her later. (NO TEXTING).

Two important points to make here. When I say ask for her number, I don’t mean “um, excuse me ma’am, would you mind leaving me your number… P-p-please?”.

When you request the digits, do it like a man who expects to get them. Pull out your phone and be confident, e.g. “How about you leave me your number?” or “Leave me your number, I’ll call you later.”

Also, if she doesn’t react immediately, DO NOT BREAK OR FLINCH. Don’t start apologizing or mumbling; you’ve got nothing to be embarrassed about. Simply stand there, phone in hand, until she gives you the number or says no.

Over the years, I’ve used this approach hundreds of times. I can only remember a handful of outcomes in which a single, straight woman rejected me. Think about how incredible that success rate is!

Why does this method work so damn well?

That’s why this is the first and only “line” I give to most clients who want to get good with women. It’s pretty much foolproof. Use it the next time a girl you like walks by and maybe you’ll spend the evening with someone pretty for a change!

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You’re out with your friends and an absolutely stunning girl appears. As your mind scrambles for something great to say, your body freezes up. She walks by and out of your life, gone forever, while you’re left to wonder what could’ve been. I know that feeling, brother. Getting numbers is the biggest sticking point for guys […]

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You’re out with your friends and an absolutely stunning girl appears. As your mind scrambles for something great to say, your body freezes up. She walks by and out of your life, gone forever, while you’re left to wonder what could’ve been.

I know that feeling, brother.

Getting numbers is the biggest sticking point for guys who want to get good with women. They say your first million is always the hardest to make and the same is true here. When you’ve got something to work with, it’s easy to keep progressing – but if you can’t even get numbers, how can you ever get laid/find a girlfriend/work on your social skills? (underline as appropriate)

To help you out, I’ll share the easiest way to definitely get a girl’s number.

Here’s What You Have To Understand

Before I go on, you’ve got to understand and accept the following.

The general population believes that women don’t want us as much as we want them. The idea is, you have to woo a girl before she gives up her digits (or a kiss, or sex).

This is actually our fault. Traditional, male-dominated cultures have repressed female sexuality for hundreds of years, both in their minds and ours.

Why?

Because in human societies, monogamy is superior to polygamy. Over time, ancient polygamous societies had to adapt or get wiped out by monogamous ones.

To enforce monogamy – the superior survival strategy – cultures and religions evolved to encourage female “purity”. A woman who’s pure – i.e. not sexual – is less likely to leave her man or cheat while he’s away at war, hunting, etc.

So humans developed this idea of the “pure” female; the good girl who saves herself for her husband, dresses plainly and doesn’t care much for sex. This ensured monogamy and the continued survival of our race. And even today, society judges women who express their sexuality in behavior and dress.

But George… What Does Any Of This Have To Do With Getting Numbers?!

So alright; society encourages the idea of the “pure” female. The one who needs to get wooed because she doesn’t want men as much as they want her.

Problem is, every time you’re letting a beautiful girl walk by without doing anything, it’s because you actually bought into this idea; that she doesn’t want and need you as much as you want and need her.

BULLSHIT.

If you’re a man, it’d never occur to you put on your best clothes, go to the club and dance in the same spot for six hours straight. BUT WOMEN DO THIS ALL THE TIME because they’re programmed to want our attention!

They want us and want to be wanted by us. They love having us in their lives, they love being in a good man’s presence and they even love… shock, horror… SEX.

If that’s not enough good news for one day, realize that women want us so much they compete for us. This is especially true if a girl is nearing her thirties: her dating pool is shrinking every year, slowly but surely turning you into an EXTREMELY VALUABLE COMMODITY.

So unless the cutie that just walked by is already seeing someone, she’s got every reason to give you her number. The only thing you have to do is ask!

The Easiest Way To Definitely Get A Girl’s Number

  1. Walk up.
  2. Make and hold eye contact.
  3. Tell her she looks great.
  4. Ask for her number.
  5. Don’t flinch.
  6. Walk away and call her later. (NO TEXTING).

Two important points to make here. When I say ask for her number, I don’t mean “um, excuse me ma’am, would you mind leaving me your number… P-p-please?”.

When you request the digits, do it like a man who expects to get them. Pull out your phone and be confident, e.g. “How about you leave me your number?” or “Leave me your number, I’ll call you later.”

Also, if she doesn’t react immediately, DO NOT BREAK OR FLINCH. Don’t start apologizing or mumbling; you’ve got nothing to be embarrassed about. Simply stand there, phone in hand, until she gives you the number or says no.

Over the years, I’ve used this approach hundreds of times. I can only remember a handful of outcomes in which a single, straight woman rejected me. Think about how incredible that success rate is!

Why does this method work so damn well?

That’s why this is the first and only “line” I give to most clients who want to get good with women. It’s pretty much foolproof. Use it the next time a girl you like walks by and maybe you’ll spend the evening with someone pretty for a change!

The post The Easiest Way To DEFINITELY Get a Girl’s Number appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

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To many modern men, life is an ongoing struggle. Nothing gives them satisfaction; they can’t find happiness no matter what they do. There’s no end in sight, no light at the end of the tunnel; only despair. This is one of the most common issues my clients have. They know something’s wrong, they don’t know […]

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To many modern men, life is an ongoing struggle. Nothing gives them satisfaction; they can’t find happiness no matter what they do. There’s no end in sight, no light at the end of the tunnel; only despair.

This is one of the most common issues my clients have. They know something’s wrong, they don’t know how to fix it and they need my help. They want to feel strong and in control instead of trying to survive one day at a time.

The truth is, it’s not that hard to stop struggling and start living; you just need to know how. To help you do that, here are 4 tips to help you find a better way – for good.

Where the Struggle Comes From

In Greek legend, a sneaky king called Sisyphus angers the gods by being a huge jackass and – amongst other things – killing his guests. As punishment, Zeus sentences him to push a huge boulder uphill – and watch it roll back down – over and over again for all eternity. In our daily lives, we’re a lot like Sisyphus.

Our goals in life move forward as we move forward. The satisfaction of achieving a goal or getting something we want doesn’t last long. There’s always more to do, have, want – there’s no end to it. As soon as we push the boulder to the top, we have to start all over again.

If you don’t believe me, just look at the people who do get what they want. Hundreds of actors, musicians and billionaire entrepreneurs don’t know what to do once successful. Many, in their despair and confusion, turn to drugs and other distractions for a temporary relief to their suffering.

It starts when we’re children. To millions of people around the world, having a family is a fantasy that’ll never come true. But kids who do have parents often think of them as embarrassing, annoying or mean, not realizing how fortunate they are to have them.

The pattern continues in adulthood when media ups the ante. We’re always being reminded of what we aren’t or don’t have. Advertisements tell us we need more stuff to be happy; Hollywood films create standards regular people like you and I can’t live up to.

By the time we start making our own life choices, we’re insatiable . Nothing we own or achieve gives us satisfaction, because wanting more has become a habit.

When we get a promotion, it doesn’t take too long to start wanting another one. When we have a nice car, we want an even better one. When we’re in a relationship, we keep wondering if someone better is out there.

Our goals move away as we approach them; we push the boulder up, then roll it back down ourselves.

Most people aren’t struggling because something’s really wrong. Usually, the problem is inside. When you never stop to be happy with what you’ve got, you sentence yourself to struggle for as long as you live – just like Sisyphus.

4 Tips for Better Living: End The Struggle

Tip #1 – Don’t Compare

The first tip is simple: don’t compare. Don’t compare yourself to others or imagined ideals; don’t compare people to each other; don’t compare your life to what could’ve been or used to be.

There’s always someone bigger and better out there; there’s always more to do. Even if you’ve got it all, remember that nobody in the history of mankind has stayed on top forever. Comparisons will only highlight what you don’t have and perpetuate the struggle. Focus on taking action, not keeping up with others!

Rule #2 – Don’t Judge

When someone upsets us or acts in a way we don’t understand, it’s easy to judge them. But what if the lady honking her horn at you in traffic just wants to get to the hospital where her husband’s in critical condition?

Everyone’s different; you don’t know why someone’s doing what they’re doing, so how can you judge them? Only losers need the false sense of superiority that looking down on someone creates. Winners don’t judge.

Most importantly, never judge yourself. Everyone deserves compassion and understanding and you’re no exception. Don’t beat yourself up and don’t pity yourself; when you screw up, get up and keep going while accepting yourself completely. This alone will remove most of the pain from your life.

Rule #3 – Don’t Resist

Don’t resist the uncontrollable realities of life. It doesn’t matter if you got dumped, hurt or fired: refusing to accept your new situation will only cause you to struggle. What’s the point in denying what already is?

If something unfortunate happens, man up and make the best of your situation. A drowning person doesn’t stay alive by panicking and flopping about uncontrollably; he does it by accepting his situation and swimming ashore.

Rule #4 – Take Action Constantly

Always do your best and take action constantly. If you give something your best shot and fail, it’s still a learning experience that leaves no room for regret, comparisons, judgment, resistance… Or struggle.

In the final analysis, having more stuff and accomplishments won’t make you complete – but doing your best at all times can. So stop procrastinating, figure out what you want and do your best at all times.

In Closing

There’s no possession or event that can give you complete satisfaction. There can never be “enough”; life has no end goal, you can’t win at it! The idea that you need something else to be happy is the source of our struggle.

To end it, focus on doing what you love; avoid distractions; enjoy your victories as they come. The journey is the destination: the greatest joy of all is life itself, not the stuff we can get in it.

Once you realize that and commit to doing your best at all times, your boulder will stay at the top of the hill.

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To many modern men, life is an ongoing struggle. Nothing gives them satisfaction; they can’t find happiness no matter what they do. There’s no end in sight, no light at the end of the tunnel; only despair. This is one of the most common issues my clients have. They know something’s wrong, they don’t know […]

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To many modern men, life is an ongoing struggle. Nothing gives them satisfaction; they can’t find happiness no matter what they do. There’s no end in sight, no light at the end of the tunnel; only despair.

This is one of the most common issues my clients have. They know something’s wrong, they don’t know how to fix it and they need my help. They want to feel strong and in control instead of trying to survive one day at a time.

The truth is, it’s not that hard to stop struggling and start living; you just need to know how. To help you do that, here are 4 tips to help you find a better way – for good.

Where the Struggle Comes From

In Greek legend, a sneaky king called Sisyphus angers the gods by being a huge jackass and – amongst other things – killing his guests. As punishment, Zeus sentences him to push a huge boulder uphill – and watch it roll back down – over and over again for all eternity. In our daily lives, we’re a lot like Sisyphus.

Our goals in life move forward as we move forward. The satisfaction of achieving a goal or getting something we want doesn’t last long. There’s always more to do, have, want – there’s no end to it. As soon as we push the boulder to the top, we have to start all over again.

If you don’t believe me, just look at the people who do get what they want. Hundreds of actors, musicians and billionaire entrepreneurs don’t know what to do once successful. Many, in their despair and confusion, turn to drugs and other distractions for a temporary relief to their suffering.

It starts when we’re children. To millions of people around the world, having a family is a fantasy that’ll never come true. But kids who do have parents often think of them as embarrassing, annoying or mean, not realizing how fortunate they are to have them.

The pattern continues in adulthood when media ups the ante. We’re always being reminded of what we aren’t or don’t have. Advertisements tell us we need more stuff to be happy; Hollywood films create standards regular people like you and I can’t live up to.

By the time we start making our own life choices, we’re insatiable . Nothing we own or achieve gives us satisfaction, because wanting more has become a habit.

When we get a promotion, it doesn’t take too long to start wanting another one. When we have a nice car, we want an even better one. When we’re in a relationship, we keep wondering if someone better is out there.

Our goals move away as we approach them; we push the boulder up, then roll it back down ourselves.

Most people aren’t struggling because something’s really wrong. Usually, the problem is inside. When you never stop to be happy with what you’ve got, you sentence yourself to struggle for as long as you live – just like Sisyphus.

4 Tips for Better Living: End The Struggle

Tip #1 – Don’t Compare

The first tip is simple: don’t compare. Don’t compare yourself to others or imagined ideals; don’t compare people to each other; don’t compare your life to what could’ve been or used to be.

There’s always someone bigger and better out there; there’s always more to do. Even if you’ve got it all, remember that nobody in the history of mankind has stayed on top forever. Comparisons will only highlight what you don’t have and perpetuate the struggle. Focus on taking action, not keeping up with others!

Rule #2 – Don’t Judge

When someone upsets us or acts in a way we don’t understand, it’s easy to judge them. But what if the lady honking her horn at you in traffic just wants to get to the hospital where her husband’s in critical condition?

Everyone’s different; you don’t know why someone’s doing what they’re doing, so how can you judge them? Only losers need the false sense of superiority that looking down on someone creates. Winners don’t judge.

Most importantly, never judge yourself. Everyone deserves compassion and understanding and you’re no exception. Don’t beat yourself up and don’t pity yourself; when you screw up, get up and keep going while accepting yourself completely. This alone will remove most of the pain from your life.

Rule #3 – Don’t Resist

Don’t resist the uncontrollable realities of life. It doesn’t matter if you got dumped, hurt or fired: refusing to accept your new situation will only cause you to struggle. What’s the point in denying what already is?

If something unfortunate happens, man up and make the best of your situation. A drowning person doesn’t stay alive by panicking and flopping about uncontrollably; he does it by accepting his situation and swimming ashore.

Rule #4 – Take Action Constantly

Always do your best and take action constantly. If you give something your best shot and fail, it’s still a learning experience that leaves no room for regret, comparisons, judgment, resistance… Or struggle.

In the final analysis, having more stuff and accomplishments won’t make you complete – but doing your best at all times can. So stop procrastinating, figure out what you want and do your best at all times.

In Closing

There’s no possession or event that can give you complete satisfaction. There can never be “enough”; life has no end goal, you can’t win at it! The idea that you need something else to be happy is the source of our struggle.

To end it, focus on doing what you love; avoid distractions; enjoy your victories as they come. The journey is the destination: the greatest joy of all is life itself, not the stuff we can get in it.

Once you realize that and commit to doing your best at all times, your boulder will stay at the top of the hill.

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Picture this. You meet the perfect girl. She’s fun, you have a lot in common and she takes your breath away every time she walks in the room. You know you’d be great together, but you don’t know if she likes you – and don’t want to screw things up by making a move at the wrong […]

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Picture this.

You meet the perfect girl. She’s fun, you have a lot in common and she takes your breath away every time she walks in the room. You know you’d be great together, but you don’t know if she likes you – and don’t want to screw things up by making a move at the wrong time.

So you try to win her over by being super-nice; buying her stuff; trying to show yourself from the best possible angle at all times. After all, that’s what women want – right?

Then she goes and breaks your heart by dating some asshole.

If you want to stop this scenario from playing itself out in your life, read this article. Find out how to be what women want and start getting those special girls!

How I “Got” It

Approaching women was hard work when I just started out. After a lifetime of never talking to strangers, I was suddenly meeting scores of girls every week. It was a great experience – but also very tiring.

Some days I’d come home and collapse on the couch like a sack of potatoes, exhausted. In those moments I didn’t want to flirt, think up fun dates or even talk.

What I really wanted was for any of the girls I’d met that day to call and say something like: “I know we just met, but can I come over and cook for you? I’ll grab a movie and some massage oil on my way over. See you in 20!”

Simply put, I wanted to get rescued. I was tired and wished someone could come and make everything better for me.

While that’s a super-unmanly way to feel, that mental state is how I figured out what women really want in men.

What Do You and Starbucks Coffee Have In Common?

Why do you think people go to Starbucks?

It’s not for the extravagantly priced coffee. It’s easy to find better stuff for the same price and plenty of people own coffee machines in 2012.

No, people don’t go to Starbucks for the drinks – they go there for the experience. The nice music; the fun beverages; the rainbow sprinkles; the whipped cream.

So when someone buys a coffee at Starbucks, they’re not buying a coffee – they’re buying a good time. Which is, incidentally, what women want from you.

Remember that Hitch quote? “No woman wakes up saying “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today!”?

I love that quote because it’s absolutely true. But notice how the word man isn’t even in that sentence! Yes, women want to get swept off their feet, but the guy doing the sweeping is secondary!

Remember: life is hard. We’ve all got stuff to do and problems to handle. Everyone wants to have a good time; to get distracted from the burdens of everyday life.

When you’re getting to know a woman, she doesn’t know you. All she knows is the experience you’ve given her over your short time together. And if that experience is great, she’ll want more of it.

That’s why it doesn’t matter how much money you’ve got in your bank account. It doesn’t matter that you have problems and issues of your own. It doesn’t matter if you’re ugly, fat, insecure, anxious, worried or lonely – or none of those things.

You don’t matter just like the coffee at Starbucks doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is the experience – or, more specifically, how you can make a woman feel. 

Being A Great Experience

The worst kind of guy makes women feel nothing at all. Most men belong to this category. They’re always focused on trying to please; trying not to offend. They’re pure vanilla – and while nobody hates vanilla, nobody’s crazy about it either.

Share yourself; be yourself. Don’t be a vanilla guy! Do what you want, say what you think, don’t be afraid to displease women. It’s better to be hated by some and loved by the others than ignored by everyone.

Here are some other ways to make yourself a better experience:

 Women want to be rescued from the dreariness of everyday life; they want men who make them feel something; they want to have a good time. (Basically they’re just like us. Shocking!)

It doesn’t matter that you’re nervous. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have the best job, car or flat. All that matters is being able to make a woman feel great. Become a fantastic experience, personified – and you’ll always be wanted.

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Picture this. You meet the perfect girl. She’s fun, you have a lot in common and she takes your breath away every time she walks in the room. You know you’d be great together, but you don’t know if she likes you – and don’t want to screw things up by making a move at the wrong […]

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Picture this.

You meet the perfect girl. She’s fun, you have a lot in common and she takes your breath away every time she walks in the room. You know you’d be great together, but you don’t know if she likes you – and don’t want to screw things up by making a move at the wrong time.

So you try to win her over by being super-nice; buying her stuff; trying to show yourself from the best possible angle at all times. After all, that’s what women want – right?

Then she goes and breaks your heart by dating some asshole.

If you want to stop this scenario from playing itself out in your life, read this article. Find out how to be what women want and start getting those special girls!

How I “Got” It

Approaching women was hard work when I just started out. After a lifetime of never talking to strangers, I was suddenly meeting scores of girls every week. It was a great experience – but also very tiring.

Some days I’d come home and collapse on the couch like a sack of potatoes, exhausted. In those moments I didn’t want to flirt, think up fun dates or even talk.

What I really wanted was for any of the girls I’d met that day to call and say something like: “I know we just met, but can I come over and cook for you? I’ll grab a movie and some massage oil on my way over. See you in 20!”

Simply put, I wanted to get rescued. I was tired and wished someone could come and make everything better for me.

While that’s a super-unmanly way to feel, that mental state is how I figured out what women really want in men.

What Do You and Starbucks Coffee Have In Common?

Why do you think people go to Starbucks?

It’s not for the extravagantly priced coffee. It’s easy to find better stuff for the same price and plenty of people own coffee machines in 2012.

No, people don’t go to Starbucks for the drinks – they go there for the experience. The nice music; the fun beverages; the rainbow sprinkles; the whipped cream.

So when someone buys a coffee at Starbucks, they’re not buying a coffee – they’re buying a good time. Which is, incidentally, what women want from you.

Remember that Hitch quote? “No woman wakes up saying “God, I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today!”?

I love that quote because it’s absolutely true. But notice how the word man isn’t even in that sentence! Yes, women want to get swept off their feet, but the guy doing the sweeping is secondary!

Remember: life is hard. We’ve all got stuff to do and problems to handle. Everyone wants to have a good time; to get distracted from the burdens of everyday life.

When you’re getting to know a woman, she doesn’t know you. All she knows is the experience you’ve given her over your short time together. And if that experience is great, she’ll want more of it.

That’s why it doesn’t matter how much money you’ve got in your bank account. It doesn’t matter that you have problems and issues of your own. It doesn’t matter if you’re ugly, fat, insecure, anxious, worried or lonely – or none of those things.

You don’t matter just like the coffee at Starbucks doesn’t matter. The only thing that matters is the experience – or, more specifically, how you can make a woman feel. 

Being A Great Experience

The worst kind of guy makes women feel nothing at all. Most men belong to this category. They’re always focused on trying to please; trying not to offend. They’re pure vanilla – and while nobody hates vanilla, nobody’s crazy about it either.

Share yourself; be yourself. Don’t be a vanilla guy! Do what you want, say what you think, don’t be afraid to displease women. It’s better to be hated by some and loved by the others than ignored by everyone.

Here are some other ways to make yourself a better experience:

 Women want to be rescued from the dreariness of everyday life; they want men who make them feel something; they want to have a good time. (Basically they’re just like us. Shocking!)

It doesn’t matter that you’re nervous. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have the best job, car or flat. All that matters is being able to make a woman feel great. Become a fantastic experience, personified – and you’ll always be wanted.

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