OK: Found an XML parser.
OK: Support for GZIP encoding.
OK: Support for character munging.

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Deprecated: Function split() is deprecated in /var/www/spekulant.dk/public_html/news/rss_parse.inc on line 153

Example Output

Channel: Loveawake.com blog

RSS URL:

Parsed Results (var_dump'ed)

object(MagpieRSS)#4 (23) {
  ["parser"]=>
  resource(13) of type (Unknown)
  ["current_item"]=>
  array(0) {
  }
  ["items"]=>
  array(10) {
    [0]=>
    array(14) {
      ["title"]=>
      string(49) "5 Creative Ways to Turn Your Photos Into Memories"
      ["link"]=>
      string(88) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/26/5-creative-ways-to-turn-your-photos-into-memories/"
      ["comments"]=>
      string(96) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/26/5-creative-ways-to-turn-your-photos-into-memories/#respond"
      ["dc"]=>
      array(1) {
        ["creator"]=>
        string(13) "J. T. Ellison"
      }
      ["pubdate"]=>
      string(31) "Fri, 26 Feb 2021 15:22:10 +0000"
      ["category"]=>
      string(11) "Interesting"
      ["guid"]=>
      string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=7000"
      ["description"]=>
      string(622) "

Photographs capture a moment in time. They’re poignant reminders of the people we love, the places we’ve seen, and the memories we’ve made. They also help us document those seemingly mundane everyday moments.  The years pass in the blink of an eye, and before you know it, your photographs are the only thing you have […]

The post 5 Creative Ways to Turn Your Photos Into Memories appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(5978) "

Photographs capture a moment in time. They’re poignant reminders of the people we love, the places we’ve seen, and the memories we’ve made. They also help us document those seemingly mundane everyday moments. 

The years pass in the blink of an eye, and before you know it, your photographs are the only thing you have left to remember those precious times. So, why not immortalize them into beautiful works of art? Forget about dusty old photo albums and check out these five creative ways to turn your photos into memories.

Transform a Photo Into a Painting

If there’s that one photo you absolutely adore, why not turn it into a real-life painting? It’s a lovely way to honor the memory of a loved one or commemorate a special occasion. You could also give it to your significant other as a unique gift. 

There are countless apps and software programs that apply artistic effects to a photo with digital tools. Still, it’s not the same as a real painting. 

If you want a hand-crafted recreation of your photograph, you can commission an artist to do so. As suggested on Instapainting, a photo-turned-painting works well for photo-realism, landscapes, portraits, and customized pieces. 

Keep a Photo Journal

Journaling is an expressive way to record events, feelings, and finer details that you might’ve otherwise forgotten. Combine it with pictures, and you’ve got yourself a magical time machine. 

With a photo journal, you’ll eternalize special memories and take a trip down memory lane whenever you like. It’s also a fantastic way to preserve your family history. You can do it the old-fashioned way by printing pictures regularly and updating your photo journal with memorabilia and jotted-down thoughts.

If you’re more tech-savvy, try using a scrapbooking app or software and turn your digital albums into a hardcover book. Most companies will also let you add your own text.

Make a Slideshow Video

You can use an online program or get an expert to create a slideshow from your favorite albums. A video is a fantastic way to condense a large number of photos into a single montage. Plus, it gives you the creative freedom to add artistic effects, a special song, or other forms of media. You can even put a story-telling twist to it, so it’s more of a mini-movie than a slideshow. 

Get Photo-Printed Items

If you prefer something more sentimental that also compliments your home, then think photo-printed decor. A picture on a throw cushion can be a fun, tongue-in-cheek reminder of a special person or an artistic expression of love. 

A lampshade or lantern covered in a selection of your favorite images is another gorgeous way to preserve memories. You could do this with various other items, but use discernment as some things could just end up looking cheesy.

Create a Collage

If you have a bare wall, why not frame pictures in various sizes to create a statement piece collage? It’s a fun and creative way to preserve moments, but it’ll also compliment your decor.

You could try a central larger picture with smaller ones surrounding or a collection of same-sized portrait and landscape shots for a more geometric look. You can also leverage the color of the wall and frames to create a cohesive work of art. Alternatively, you can use a collage-maker program or app and have it professionally printed on canvas.

Now You Know

Turning your photographs into exquisite memories is a beautiful way to remember the special people and moments in your life. You can transform an image into a painting, keep a photo journal, or make a slideshow. Photo-printed items and a statement piece collage are also lovely options.

The post 5 Creative Ways to Turn Your Photos Into Memories appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(93) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/26/5-creative-ways-to-turn-your-photos-into-memories/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(622) "

Photographs capture a moment in time. They’re poignant reminders of the people we love, the places we’ve seen, and the memories we’ve made. They also help us document those seemingly mundane everyday moments.  The years pass in the blink of an eye, and before you know it, your photographs are the only thing you have […]

The post 5 Creative Ways to Turn Your Photos Into Memories appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(5978) "

Photographs capture a moment in time. They’re poignant reminders of the people we love, the places we’ve seen, and the memories we’ve made. They also help us document those seemingly mundane everyday moments. 

The years pass in the blink of an eye, and before you know it, your photographs are the only thing you have left to remember those precious times. So, why not immortalize them into beautiful works of art? Forget about dusty old photo albums and check out these five creative ways to turn your photos into memories.

Transform a Photo Into a Painting

If there’s that one photo you absolutely adore, why not turn it into a real-life painting? It’s a lovely way to honor the memory of a loved one or commemorate a special occasion. You could also give it to your significant other as a unique gift. 

There are countless apps and software programs that apply artistic effects to a photo with digital tools. Still, it’s not the same as a real painting. 

If you want a hand-crafted recreation of your photograph, you can commission an artist to do so. As suggested on Instapainting, a photo-turned-painting works well for photo-realism, landscapes, portraits, and customized pieces. 

Keep a Photo Journal

Journaling is an expressive way to record events, feelings, and finer details that you might’ve otherwise forgotten. Combine it with pictures, and you’ve got yourself a magical time machine. 

With a photo journal, you’ll eternalize special memories and take a trip down memory lane whenever you like. It’s also a fantastic way to preserve your family history. You can do it the old-fashioned way by printing pictures regularly and updating your photo journal with memorabilia and jotted-down thoughts.

If you’re more tech-savvy, try using a scrapbooking app or software and turn your digital albums into a hardcover book. Most companies will also let you add your own text.

Make a Slideshow Video

You can use an online program or get an expert to create a slideshow from your favorite albums. A video is a fantastic way to condense a large number of photos into a single montage. Plus, it gives you the creative freedom to add artistic effects, a special song, or other forms of media. You can even put a story-telling twist to it, so it’s more of a mini-movie than a slideshow. 

Get Photo-Printed Items

If you prefer something more sentimental that also compliments your home, then think photo-printed decor. A picture on a throw cushion can be a fun, tongue-in-cheek reminder of a special person or an artistic expression of love. 

A lampshade or lantern covered in a selection of your favorite images is another gorgeous way to preserve memories. You could do this with various other items, but use discernment as some things could just end up looking cheesy.

Create a Collage

If you have a bare wall, why not frame pictures in various sizes to create a statement piece collage? It’s a fun and creative way to preserve moments, but it’ll also compliment your decor.

You could try a central larger picture with smaller ones surrounding or a collection of same-sized portrait and landscape shots for a more geometric look. You can also leverage the color of the wall and frames to create a cohesive work of art. Alternatively, you can use a collage-maker program or app and have it professionally printed on canvas.

Now You Know

Turning your photographs into exquisite memories is a beautiful way to remember the special people and moments in your life. You can transform an image into a painting, keep a photo journal, or make a slideshow. Photo-printed items and a statement piece collage are also lovely options.

The post 5 Creative Ways to Turn Your Photos Into Memories appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1614352930) } [1]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(39) "Why Christians Should Try Online Dating" ["link"]=> string(79) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/17/most-popular-dating-sites-for-christians/" ["comments"]=> string(87) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/17/most-popular-dating-sites-for-christians/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Wed, 17 Feb 2021 16:40:37 +0000" ["category"]=> string(13) "Dating Advice" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6992" ["description"]=> string(634) "

Online dating websites are ubiquitous these days; instead of searching for partners at traditional places, people sign up on dating websites and start hunting their perfect dating partner. Online dating websites are very accessible and convenient for users around the globe to interact with like-minded people. If you are searching for a Christian male or […]

The post Why Christians Should Try Online Dating appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(10668) "

Online dating websites are ubiquitous these days; instead of searching for partners at traditional places, people sign up on dating websites and start hunting their perfect dating partner. Online dating websites are very accessible and convenient for users around the globe to interact with like-minded people. If you are searching for a Christian male or female with the same interest, you can signup on the most popular dating sites for Christians. Signing up on online dating websites allows you to have an opportunity to meet individuals across cities who reflect their matched interests virtually and availability. The prime aim of online dating websites is to assist their users with dedication and commitment to match them with their ideal soulmates and dating partners.

Why Online Dating?

Not everyone gets lucky in finding their perfect match, but if you are bold and confident enough, you can quickly introduce yourself to people and plan to meet in person with them. If you are looking for casual hookups and dating, you must ensure you follow all online dating protocols. The prime reason why websites are promoting the culture of online dating is to develop interaction and confidence between Christian males and females so they can understand each other before they meet in person. Online dating is not a walk in the garden; it requires sincerity, determination, and boldness to help you find the best partner. Online dating is a general learning curve for every person, and if you have a partner from a western or far eastern country, you will get to know his or her distinct cultures and traditions.


If you are shy and have public fear, online dating is the best tool to improve yourself. People hesitate and cannot express themselves wholly in front of others, so it is recommended to interact online without being judged by your prospect. No one would be judging you on your mistakes, so it is okay to have an experimental approach while searching for the ideal partner for you. Being shy is okay, but it should not stop you from online flirting and talking. Always try to make an attractive and eye-catching profile, and start by accepting and sending requests living across towns or cities. Once you have verified your profile on a dating website, it is your court; you can smash with the word go or take it slowly. It is recommended to avoid the adrenaline rush and start by responding steadily to avoid any future clashes.

Many Christian dating websites provide user-friendly interphase, where you can quickly post your daily prayers and religious thoughts. Users tend to regularly publish articles and reply in responses regarding an ongoing conversation. So, dating websites produce an overall good outcome where you are free to comment and make new casual friends. Hundreds of users on that website stalk your every post and comment, so always think before posting.

Why Maintain a Good Online Profile?

It is true, connections judge you by your profile and picture, so always upload an attractive and appealing display picture. If you are planning to make a profile with a fake name and bio, then don’t! As people tend to get impressions about bogus profiles and block you instantly, so refrain from having bogus accounts. Always express who you are, and the perfect match would bounce at your landing screen; though it is not that easy, you need some luck to go through with it. Usually, people search for people with the same interests and habits, so it is easy to mingle and interact with them. You can always stalk someone’s profile and then start communicating with him or her. You and your profile are being evaluated from the first conversation and post, so always be sharp and react accordingly.
Like every digitalized communication, online dating has its worth. People living far across towns and cities can date without any hesitations. A little fling can lead to extended skype calls and facetime. As online dating is a digitalized platform and you need to maintain a good online presence as the one stalking you have not met in person yet. According to relevant sources, more than 16,000,000 people are active on a single dating site on average. Your profile is public, and everyone scrolling through would notice your profile’s features, so establish and maintain your online presence. Never discuss your online dating profile in public, as this might dent your professional reputation, keep your online dating credentials discreet from others.

How to Create an Attractive Dating Profile?

Online dating websites are diversified platforms, where people from different faces and colors login and try to interact. To seem attractive to everyone stalking your profile, you need to have a clear proper picture; a selfie might do the trick as it is a perfect close-up picture. Add attractive captions with your bio, which might help you in starting a conversation. Once you start feeling comfortable, upload more images from your gallery on your profile and keep it updated. Always remember to add a peculiar detail about you, which might attract any of your connections or a random stalker. Almost every Christian is residing by the next street, start thinking different and give your profile a unique look. Just don’t focus on photos; at times, people begin by noticing the content describing you. Use concise and to the point paragraphs to represent you and your lifestyle. Avoid cliché arguments and quotes, which might end up being noticed by your followers.

It is your profile; always remember the first impression is the last, and once your profile seems attractive to your future partner, they might initiate the talk by themselves. Online dating sites show the real potential of people getting into serious relationships and conversations. It is crucial to highlight your vision and approach to how you would go during conversations and what you are looking for in your partner. Keep your vision broad and accept invitations from unexpected people, and stay positive.

Does Online Dating Websites Have Secured and Encrypted Platforms?

In this highly saturated and classified internet space, every website has its security standard procedures. Users only register themselves at realistic websites and end to end encryption, where online users’ data is not being monitored or sold to any third-party organization. Online dating platforms are secure; they held up all internet protocols complying with users’ safety and privacy. Internationally recognized dating websites run internal security checks on profiles; if they observe a threat, the member is red-flagged, and the account is removed. To avoid any uncertain risks, you must always verify your profile and use dating websites that are reliable and have mass usage. If any website or agent asks you to pay dollars via online transactions in exchange for protecting your identity, refrain from accessing those websites and contacts. Many online dating websites enable you to monitor visitors viewing your profile; you can maintain a vigilant check and balance and then block suspicious or fake profiles. Many online dating websites have 24/7 chat support representatives, assisting you in situations and answering your query.

How to Stay Secure on Online Dating Websites?

You never know who is actually behind the profile uploaded on the webpage. Do in-depth research about specific dating sites before signing up. Do not fall for ads and fake dating websites, which might dent your data and privacy. Do not throw your contact number to every person you talk to. Take your time, get settled, establish a level of trust and then exchange personal information. Confirm with your partner before scheduling an in-person date, ask them to give a visual on video call before the meeting. Hence, it is easy to identify in public and eliminate all doubts of uncertainty. Do not exploit your social networking usernames; keep all interactions limited to a dating website and its specific chatroom. After a doubtful or fragile meet up with your partner, walk yourself home or prefer public transport, to avoid being tailed. If you meet for the first time with the person you interacted with on an online dating website, keep things simple, don’t try anything fancy, and try to schedule your date in a public space or a public park. 

While chatting with your partner on the website, do not leak any confidential or classified information, talk general, and then self-evaluate yourself. Run multiple checks of the person you are talking to, do not fall for fake profiles, ask for valid identity before involving yourself much. Do not fall for tricks, lose your money; refrain from getting involved in suspicious networks and groups. Usually, people signup using their nicknames, making it difficult for others to check them on other social media platforms. After going through with your partner, set your long term goals and then plan accordingly. You must always remember that your privacy and security are in your own hands, take baby steps towards online dating, and start flourishing yourself. At, times you might feel that odds are not in your favor, but stay consistent; you might find your true soulmate soon.

The post Why Christians Should Try Online Dating appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(84) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/17/most-popular-dating-sites-for-christians/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(634) "

Online dating websites are ubiquitous these days; instead of searching for partners at traditional places, people sign up on dating websites and start hunting their perfect dating partner. Online dating websites are very accessible and convenient for users around the globe to interact with like-minded people. If you are searching for a Christian male or […]

The post Why Christians Should Try Online Dating appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(10668) "

Online dating websites are ubiquitous these days; instead of searching for partners at traditional places, people sign up on dating websites and start hunting their perfect dating partner. Online dating websites are very accessible and convenient for users around the globe to interact with like-minded people. If you are searching for a Christian male or female with the same interest, you can signup on the most popular dating sites for Christians. Signing up on online dating websites allows you to have an opportunity to meet individuals across cities who reflect their matched interests virtually and availability. The prime aim of online dating websites is to assist their users with dedication and commitment to match them with their ideal soulmates and dating partners.

Why Online Dating?

Not everyone gets lucky in finding their perfect match, but if you are bold and confident enough, you can quickly introduce yourself to people and plan to meet in person with them. If you are looking for casual hookups and dating, you must ensure you follow all online dating protocols. The prime reason why websites are promoting the culture of online dating is to develop interaction and confidence between Christian males and females so they can understand each other before they meet in person. Online dating is not a walk in the garden; it requires sincerity, determination, and boldness to help you find the best partner. Online dating is a general learning curve for every person, and if you have a partner from a western or far eastern country, you will get to know his or her distinct cultures and traditions.


If you are shy and have public fear, online dating is the best tool to improve yourself. People hesitate and cannot express themselves wholly in front of others, so it is recommended to interact online without being judged by your prospect. No one would be judging you on your mistakes, so it is okay to have an experimental approach while searching for the ideal partner for you. Being shy is okay, but it should not stop you from online flirting and talking. Always try to make an attractive and eye-catching profile, and start by accepting and sending requests living across towns or cities. Once you have verified your profile on a dating website, it is your court; you can smash with the word go or take it slowly. It is recommended to avoid the adrenaline rush and start by responding steadily to avoid any future clashes.

Many Christian dating websites provide user-friendly interphase, where you can quickly post your daily prayers and religious thoughts. Users tend to regularly publish articles and reply in responses regarding an ongoing conversation. So, dating websites produce an overall good outcome where you are free to comment and make new casual friends. Hundreds of users on that website stalk your every post and comment, so always think before posting.

Why Maintain a Good Online Profile?

It is true, connections judge you by your profile and picture, so always upload an attractive and appealing display picture. If you are planning to make a profile with a fake name and bio, then don’t! As people tend to get impressions about bogus profiles and block you instantly, so refrain from having bogus accounts. Always express who you are, and the perfect match would bounce at your landing screen; though it is not that easy, you need some luck to go through with it. Usually, people search for people with the same interests and habits, so it is easy to mingle and interact with them. You can always stalk someone’s profile and then start communicating with him or her. You and your profile are being evaluated from the first conversation and post, so always be sharp and react accordingly.
Like every digitalized communication, online dating has its worth. People living far across towns and cities can date without any hesitations. A little fling can lead to extended skype calls and facetime. As online dating is a digitalized platform and you need to maintain a good online presence as the one stalking you have not met in person yet. According to relevant sources, more than 16,000,000 people are active on a single dating site on average. Your profile is public, and everyone scrolling through would notice your profile’s features, so establish and maintain your online presence. Never discuss your online dating profile in public, as this might dent your professional reputation, keep your online dating credentials discreet from others.

How to Create an Attractive Dating Profile?

Online dating websites are diversified platforms, where people from different faces and colors login and try to interact. To seem attractive to everyone stalking your profile, you need to have a clear proper picture; a selfie might do the trick as it is a perfect close-up picture. Add attractive captions with your bio, which might help you in starting a conversation. Once you start feeling comfortable, upload more images from your gallery on your profile and keep it updated. Always remember to add a peculiar detail about you, which might attract any of your connections or a random stalker. Almost every Christian is residing by the next street, start thinking different and give your profile a unique look. Just don’t focus on photos; at times, people begin by noticing the content describing you. Use concise and to the point paragraphs to represent you and your lifestyle. Avoid cliché arguments and quotes, which might end up being noticed by your followers.

It is your profile; always remember the first impression is the last, and once your profile seems attractive to your future partner, they might initiate the talk by themselves. Online dating sites show the real potential of people getting into serious relationships and conversations. It is crucial to highlight your vision and approach to how you would go during conversations and what you are looking for in your partner. Keep your vision broad and accept invitations from unexpected people, and stay positive.

Does Online Dating Websites Have Secured and Encrypted Platforms?

In this highly saturated and classified internet space, every website has its security standard procedures. Users only register themselves at realistic websites and end to end encryption, where online users’ data is not being monitored or sold to any third-party organization. Online dating platforms are secure; they held up all internet protocols complying with users’ safety and privacy. Internationally recognized dating websites run internal security checks on profiles; if they observe a threat, the member is red-flagged, and the account is removed. To avoid any uncertain risks, you must always verify your profile and use dating websites that are reliable and have mass usage. If any website or agent asks you to pay dollars via online transactions in exchange for protecting your identity, refrain from accessing those websites and contacts. Many online dating websites enable you to monitor visitors viewing your profile; you can maintain a vigilant check and balance and then block suspicious or fake profiles. Many online dating websites have 24/7 chat support representatives, assisting you in situations and answering your query.

How to Stay Secure on Online Dating Websites?

You never know who is actually behind the profile uploaded on the webpage. Do in-depth research about specific dating sites before signing up. Do not fall for ads and fake dating websites, which might dent your data and privacy. Do not throw your contact number to every person you talk to. Take your time, get settled, establish a level of trust and then exchange personal information. Confirm with your partner before scheduling an in-person date, ask them to give a visual on video call before the meeting. Hence, it is easy to identify in public and eliminate all doubts of uncertainty. Do not exploit your social networking usernames; keep all interactions limited to a dating website and its specific chatroom. After a doubtful or fragile meet up with your partner, walk yourself home or prefer public transport, to avoid being tailed. If you meet for the first time with the person you interacted with on an online dating website, keep things simple, don’t try anything fancy, and try to schedule your date in a public space or a public park. 

While chatting with your partner on the website, do not leak any confidential or classified information, talk general, and then self-evaluate yourself. Run multiple checks of the person you are talking to, do not fall for fake profiles, ask for valid identity before involving yourself much. Do not fall for tricks, lose your money; refrain from getting involved in suspicious networks and groups. Usually, people signup using their nicknames, making it difficult for others to check them on other social media platforms. After going through with your partner, set your long term goals and then plan accordingly. You must always remember that your privacy and security are in your own hands, take baby steps towards online dating, and start flourishing yourself. At, times you might feel that odds are not in your favor, but stay consistent; you might find your true soulmate soon.

The post Why Christians Should Try Online Dating appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613580037) } [2]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(27) "10 Flirty Knock Knock Jokes" ["link"]=> string(66) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/10-flirty-knock-knock-jokes/" ["comments"]=> string(74) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/10-flirty-knock-knock-jokes/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 15:53:06 +0000" ["category"]=> string(51) "InterestingcomedyflirtflirtingHumorjokesknock knock" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6987" ["description"]=> string(538) "

These 10 flirty knock knock jokes can make the woman you are trying to impress laugh while showing off your flirty side. It is good to be serious, but not all the time. When trying to win a woman over, humor can play an important role. If you show your sense of humor, she will truly […]

The post 10 Flirty Knock Knock Jokes appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(3239) "

These 10 flirty knock knock jokes can make the woman you are trying to impress laugh while showing off your flirty side.

It is good to be serious, but not all the time. When trying to win a woman over, humor can play an important role. If you show your sense of humor, she will truly appreciate it as it will help her to get to know you and develop a deeper interest in you. So try out these knock knock jokes, and good luck!

1. Knock knock. Who’s there? Mirra. Mirra who? Mirra Mirra on the wall. This joke may seem corny, but you can play it up any way you like. You could add a little flirty edge to it by saying she is the prettiest woman of them all.

2. Knock knock. Who’s there? Al. Al who? Al give you a kiss if you open up the door. This knock knock joke is very flirty. It shows your humorous side but also shows that you can flirt as well.

3. Knock knock. Who’s there? Aldo. Aldo who? Aldo anywhere with you. Sweet and flirty describes this joke. A women will like your sense of humor and love your charm when you use this knock knock joke.

4. Knock knock. Who’s there? Aretha. Aretha who? Aretha flowers for you. With this knock knock joke, you want to bring the lady some flowers. This joke is cute and very flirty. It will win a woman’s heart.

5. Knock knock. Who’s there? Arnie. Arnie who? Arnie having fun? Such a cute knock knock joke could sweep a woman right off of her feet. This one is sweet and charming and could be used on anyone.

6. Knock knock. Who’s there? Butch. Butch who? Butch your arms around me. With this knock knock joke, you are showing your sense of humor and that you are truly into the girl. So much so that you want her to wrap her arms around you.

7. Knock knock. Who’s there? Cheese. Cheese who? Cheese a cute girl! Every girl loves being complimented, so this knock knock joke will win over the woman of your attention. You can tell her she is cute and she will love it!

8. Knock knock. Who’s there? Cynthia. Cynthia who? Cynthia you been away, I missed you. This knock knock joke is so sweet. You will make her see how much you are into her when you tell her you have missed her.

9. Knock knock. Who’s there? De Niro. De Niro who? De Niro I am to you, the more I like you. Telling her this will be playing a high card and will melt her heart to know you’re into her.

10. Knock knock. Who’s there? Egg. Egg who? Eggcited to meet you. As corny as this one may seem, it is a winner. It will show the woman how excited you are to meet her. It will also show your sense of humor.

The post 10 Flirty Knock Knock Jokes appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(71) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/10-flirty-knock-knock-jokes/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(538) "

These 10 flirty knock knock jokes can make the woman you are trying to impress laugh while showing off your flirty side. It is good to be serious, but not all the time. When trying to win a woman over, humor can play an important role. If you show your sense of humor, she will truly […]

The post 10 Flirty Knock Knock Jokes appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(3239) "

These 10 flirty knock knock jokes can make the woman you are trying to impress laugh while showing off your flirty side.

It is good to be serious, but not all the time. When trying to win a woman over, humor can play an important role. If you show your sense of humor, she will truly appreciate it as it will help her to get to know you and develop a deeper interest in you. So try out these knock knock jokes, and good luck!

1. Knock knock. Who’s there? Mirra. Mirra who? Mirra Mirra on the wall. This joke may seem corny, but you can play it up any way you like. You could add a little flirty edge to it by saying she is the prettiest woman of them all.

2. Knock knock. Who’s there? Al. Al who? Al give you a kiss if you open up the door. This knock knock joke is very flirty. It shows your humorous side but also shows that you can flirt as well.

3. Knock knock. Who’s there? Aldo. Aldo who? Aldo anywhere with you. Sweet and flirty describes this joke. A women will like your sense of humor and love your charm when you use this knock knock joke.

4. Knock knock. Who’s there? Aretha. Aretha who? Aretha flowers for you. With this knock knock joke, you want to bring the lady some flowers. This joke is cute and very flirty. It will win a woman’s heart.

5. Knock knock. Who’s there? Arnie. Arnie who? Arnie having fun? Such a cute knock knock joke could sweep a woman right off of her feet. This one is sweet and charming and could be used on anyone.

6. Knock knock. Who’s there? Butch. Butch who? Butch your arms around me. With this knock knock joke, you are showing your sense of humor and that you are truly into the girl. So much so that you want her to wrap her arms around you.

7. Knock knock. Who’s there? Cheese. Cheese who? Cheese a cute girl! Every girl loves being complimented, so this knock knock joke will win over the woman of your attention. You can tell her she is cute and she will love it!

8. Knock knock. Who’s there? Cynthia. Cynthia who? Cynthia you been away, I missed you. This knock knock joke is so sweet. You will make her see how much you are into her when you tell her you have missed her.

9. Knock knock. Who’s there? De Niro. De Niro who? De Niro I am to you, the more I like you. Telling her this will be playing a high card and will melt her heart to know you’re into her.

10. Knock knock. Who’s there? Egg. Egg who? Eggcited to meet you. As corny as this one may seem, it is a winner. It will show the woman how excited you are to meet her. It will also show your sense of humor.

The post 10 Flirty Knock Knock Jokes appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613404386) } [3]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(53) "Guys: The Dress Shoes with No Socks Thing Has to Stop" ["link"]=> string(91) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/guys-the-dress-shoes-with-no-socks-thing-has-to-stop/" ["comments"]=> string(99) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/guys-the-dress-shoes-with-no-socks-thing-has-to-stop/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 15:14:39 +0000" ["category"]=> string(48) "Interestingfashion mistakesmen fashionshoessocks" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6981" ["description"]=> string(696) "

It not only looks bad, but also it is downright nasty. Here’s why. Something terrible is happening in men’s fashion: Men are rolling up their trousers, slipping on leather dress shoes, and leaving their socks at home. Countless shopping sites display happy, deliriously cool men hanging out on urban stoops with their exposed ankles dipped into leather stink factories. The fashion […]

The post Guys: The Dress Shoes with No Socks Thing Has to Stop appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(3736) "

It not only looks bad, but also it is downright nasty. Here’s why.

Something terrible is happening in men’s fashion: Men are rolling up their trousers, slipping on leather dress shoes, and leaving their socks at home. Countless shopping sites display happy, deliriously cool men hanging out on urban stoops with their exposed ankles dipped into leather stink factories.

The fashion world is telling men that this is the new dressed-up casual in the same way we all decided blazers with jeans are okay (they are, by the way, but there are rules and we’ll get to those another time).

And men are buying it.

“When you wear dress shoes without socks, you look unfinished. You look like a man-boy in a short suit. You look like a guy named ‘Blake’ who wants to tell you about his yacht that never leaves the slip.”

I can understand the appeal. This look (which is nothing new, by the way) aims to say: “Hey, I’m wearing my nice shoes, but I’m a casual guy and it’s summertime. I’m your buddy. I don’t take this dress shoe thing too seriously. Hang out with me.” I get it: It’s hot outside, and feet get hot. Surely rolling up the pants and leaving your foot to breathe a bit more will cool you down, right?

No. Not only does it look bad, but it also is downright nasty.

First, on the looks. The shoe-with-no-socks look is what happens when you have to take the trash out minutes before the Sanitation Department shows up and the only nearby kicks are your leather loafers you left near the door last night. Or maybe you’re grabbing the paper (does anyone do that anymore?) and you have some old docksiders sitting around. Maybe you’re just making a run to the corner bodega. Whatever your excuse, the no-socked leather shoe is a temporary solution, and your bare feet should be removed from your leather shoes as soon as possible.

When you wear dress shoes without socks, you look unfinished. You look like a man-boy in a short suit. You look like a guy named ‘Blake’ (apologies to the nice Blakes out there) who wants to tell you about his yacht that never leaves the slip. You look like Don Johnson in his Ferrari days, and only he can have those. Let him have them. He needs something.

On to the “nasty” part.

Feet sweat. Sweat breeds bacteria. Bacteria stinks when it poops after eating your sweat. Closed-toed shoes are foot-sweat saunas. Leather is especially good at soaking up sweat and allowing bacteria to do its thing (it’s moisture-hungry dead skin, after all). So you wear your leather shoes with no socks one day, dump a bunch of sweat in there, let it cook over night, and then put your feet back in there like it’s some kind of freeze-dried ramen that’s been waiting for some hot liquid to re-activate its foulness.

That’s right: When you slip into those cool-casual leather loafers in the morning, you’re activating instant foot fromageries.

Can we stop this? Thanks.

The post Guys: The Dress Shoes with No Socks Thing Has to Stop appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(96) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/guys-the-dress-shoes-with-no-socks-thing-has-to-stop/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(696) "

It not only looks bad, but also it is downright nasty. Here’s why. Something terrible is happening in men’s fashion: Men are rolling up their trousers, slipping on leather dress shoes, and leaving their socks at home. Countless shopping sites display happy, deliriously cool men hanging out on urban stoops with their exposed ankles dipped into leather stink factories. The fashion […]

The post Guys: The Dress Shoes with No Socks Thing Has to Stop appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(3736) "

It not only looks bad, but also it is downright nasty. Here’s why.

Something terrible is happening in men’s fashion: Men are rolling up their trousers, slipping on leather dress shoes, and leaving their socks at home. Countless shopping sites display happy, deliriously cool men hanging out on urban stoops with their exposed ankles dipped into leather stink factories.

The fashion world is telling men that this is the new dressed-up casual in the same way we all decided blazers with jeans are okay (they are, by the way, but there are rules and we’ll get to those another time).

And men are buying it.

“When you wear dress shoes without socks, you look unfinished. You look like a man-boy in a short suit. You look like a guy named ‘Blake’ who wants to tell you about his yacht that never leaves the slip.”

I can understand the appeal. This look (which is nothing new, by the way) aims to say: “Hey, I’m wearing my nice shoes, but I’m a casual guy and it’s summertime. I’m your buddy. I don’t take this dress shoe thing too seriously. Hang out with me.” I get it: It’s hot outside, and feet get hot. Surely rolling up the pants and leaving your foot to breathe a bit more will cool you down, right?

No. Not only does it look bad, but it also is downright nasty.

First, on the looks. The shoe-with-no-socks look is what happens when you have to take the trash out minutes before the Sanitation Department shows up and the only nearby kicks are your leather loafers you left near the door last night. Or maybe you’re grabbing the paper (does anyone do that anymore?) and you have some old docksiders sitting around. Maybe you’re just making a run to the corner bodega. Whatever your excuse, the no-socked leather shoe is a temporary solution, and your bare feet should be removed from your leather shoes as soon as possible.

When you wear dress shoes without socks, you look unfinished. You look like a man-boy in a short suit. You look like a guy named ‘Blake’ (apologies to the nice Blakes out there) who wants to tell you about his yacht that never leaves the slip. You look like Don Johnson in his Ferrari days, and only he can have those. Let him have them. He needs something.

On to the “nasty” part.

Feet sweat. Sweat breeds bacteria. Bacteria stinks when it poops after eating your sweat. Closed-toed shoes are foot-sweat saunas. Leather is especially good at soaking up sweat and allowing bacteria to do its thing (it’s moisture-hungry dead skin, after all). So you wear your leather shoes with no socks one day, dump a bunch of sweat in there, let it cook over night, and then put your feet back in there like it’s some kind of freeze-dried ramen that’s been waiting for some hot liquid to re-activate its foulness.

That’s right: When you slip into those cool-casual leather loafers in the morning, you’re activating instant foot fromageries.

Can we stop this? Thanks.

The post Guys: The Dress Shoes with No Socks Thing Has to Stop appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613402079) } [4]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(41) "These 5 Texts Will Win Her Over Instantly" ["link"]=> string(80) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/these-5-texts-will-win-her-over-instantly/" ["comments"]=> string(88) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/these-5-texts-will-win-her-over-instantly/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:58:41 +0000" ["category"]=> string(86) "Relationship Advicedatingmeeting womensextingsmartphonesnapchattexttext messagetexting" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6975" ["description"]=> string(602) "

So, you met a girl you really liked last night and got her number. Now what? Your fate with this chick lies in the first communication you make, which, let’s be honest, will probably be a text. Nothing wrong with that, but you’d better make sure that text is good—we ladies tend to analyze. And then overanalyze. […]

The post These 5 Texts Will Win Her Over Instantly appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(6187) "

So, you met a girl you really liked last night and got her number. Now what? Your fate with this chick lies in the first communication you make, which, let’s be honest, will probably be a text. Nothing wrong with that, but you’d better make sure that text is good—we ladies tend to analyze. And then overanalyze. And then invite our friends to analyze.

Once you get past the basics (Remember her name, and use it; Don’t wait a month to reach out; Don’t be a major douche), there are plenty of directions you can take with The Text.

Here are five types of approaches likely to get you an enthusiastic response—and possibly much more.

Win her heart, or at least a response, by showing off your humor. Bonus points if you incorporate something about your previous conversation.

1. The Follow-Up

Chances are, when you met this girl, she told you something about herself. It could’ve been her favorite band, a trip she’s planning, or an event she was going to later that week. Rack your brain, and use one of those tidbits to follow up—ask her how the event was, if she’s heard that band’s new single… anything to prove you were listening. Not only will she be impressed that you remembered what she told you—and that you care enough to ask her more about it—but she’ll also be more motivated to respond, given its to a question that holds interest for her.
Example: “Hey there, how’d your 15-mile run go? I’m still so impressed you’re training for the marathon (said as I eat my hangover-egg-sandwich).”

2. The Dive-In

Not one for chitchat—or maybe just that sure she really liked you? Well then, nothing wrong with just going for it and asking her out. The absence of awkward small talk or head-spinning games will certainly be a refreshing and welcome change on her end. Plus, you’ll come off as cool and confident, which never hurts.
Example: “Hey, I had a great time chatting with you the other night—shall we continue the conversation over dinner Friday?”

3. The Warm-Up

If you’re sweating just thinking about the aforementioned dive-in, take a more gradual approach. The key is to engage her and show her genuine interest by asking questions, continuing the conversation, and then—it’s gotta happen sometime—asking her out. She may feel a flutter of excitement when you text her wondering how her week is going, but that excitement will quickly turn into frustration and disdain if you never take the next step. If she’s responding to your initial texts and participating in the conversation (one-word answers do not qualify), then she’s probably interested. You’ve got the green light. Now go.
Example: “Hey there, how’s your week going? Are you going as excited to stop dressing like a polar explorer as I am?”

4. The Funny

Few girls can resist a guy who makes her laugh. (And if they can, stay away—there’s something wrong with them.) Win her heart—or at least a response—by showing off your humor. While a generic joke (if it’s a good one, of course) will do, bonus points if you incorporate something about her or your previous conversation.
Example: “So, I was thinking about what you said about French bulldogs being irresistibly cute… does this count?” [Insert selfie with bulldog ears and nose drawn on, Snapchat style]

5. The Offer She Can’t Refuse

If you really like this girl and just know you have to see her again, pull out the big guns—just prepare to drop some cash. Get tickets to a concert for the favorite band she mentioned, a reservation at that trendy new restaurant everyone’s dying to get into, or perhaps a sports event (only if the team is good, please). Get creative, and choose something awesome that’ll make her feel VIP. If you want to be really bold, tell her you got the tickets in hopes she’d join you, but if you want to play it a bit safer, pretend you just happen to have them. Note: If she passes on a kickass offer, she’s probably not worth your time anyway, and you can find someone cooler to take in her place.
Example: “Hey, I have tickets to next week’s Foo Fighters show and my buddy just bailed—any chance you’d like to join? I promise not to sing along too loudly.”

The post These 5 Texts Will Win Her Over Instantly appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(85) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/these-5-texts-will-win-her-over-instantly/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(602) "

So, you met a girl you really liked last night and got her number. Now what? Your fate with this chick lies in the first communication you make, which, let’s be honest, will probably be a text. Nothing wrong with that, but you’d better make sure that text is good—we ladies tend to analyze. And then overanalyze. […]

The post These 5 Texts Will Win Her Over Instantly appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(6187) "

So, you met a girl you really liked last night and got her number. Now what? Your fate with this chick lies in the first communication you make, which, let’s be honest, will probably be a text. Nothing wrong with that, but you’d better make sure that text is good—we ladies tend to analyze. And then overanalyze. And then invite our friends to analyze.

Once you get past the basics (Remember her name, and use it; Don’t wait a month to reach out; Don’t be a major douche), there are plenty of directions you can take with The Text.

Here are five types of approaches likely to get you an enthusiastic response—and possibly much more.

Win her heart, or at least a response, by showing off your humor. Bonus points if you incorporate something about your previous conversation.

1. The Follow-Up

Chances are, when you met this girl, she told you something about herself. It could’ve been her favorite band, a trip she’s planning, or an event she was going to later that week. Rack your brain, and use one of those tidbits to follow up—ask her how the event was, if she’s heard that band’s new single… anything to prove you were listening. Not only will she be impressed that you remembered what she told you—and that you care enough to ask her more about it—but she’ll also be more motivated to respond, given its to a question that holds interest for her.
Example: “Hey there, how’d your 15-mile run go? I’m still so impressed you’re training for the marathon (said as I eat my hangover-egg-sandwich).”

2. The Dive-In

Not one for chitchat—or maybe just that sure she really liked you? Well then, nothing wrong with just going for it and asking her out. The absence of awkward small talk or head-spinning games will certainly be a refreshing and welcome change on her end. Plus, you’ll come off as cool and confident, which never hurts.
Example: “Hey, I had a great time chatting with you the other night—shall we continue the conversation over dinner Friday?”

3. The Warm-Up

If you’re sweating just thinking about the aforementioned dive-in, take a more gradual approach. The key is to engage her and show her genuine interest by asking questions, continuing the conversation, and then—it’s gotta happen sometime—asking her out. She may feel a flutter of excitement when you text her wondering how her week is going, but that excitement will quickly turn into frustration and disdain if you never take the next step. If she’s responding to your initial texts and participating in the conversation (one-word answers do not qualify), then she’s probably interested. You’ve got the green light. Now go.
Example: “Hey there, how’s your week going? Are you going as excited to stop dressing like a polar explorer as I am?”

4. The Funny

Few girls can resist a guy who makes her laugh. (And if they can, stay away—there’s something wrong with them.) Win her heart—or at least a response—by showing off your humor. While a generic joke (if it’s a good one, of course) will do, bonus points if you incorporate something about her or your previous conversation.
Example: “So, I was thinking about what you said about French bulldogs being irresistibly cute… does this count?” [Insert selfie with bulldog ears and nose drawn on, Snapchat style]

5. The Offer She Can’t Refuse

If you really like this girl and just know you have to see her again, pull out the big guns—just prepare to drop some cash. Get tickets to a concert for the favorite band she mentioned, a reservation at that trendy new restaurant everyone’s dying to get into, or perhaps a sports event (only if the team is good, please). Get creative, and choose something awesome that’ll make her feel VIP. If you want to be really bold, tell her you got the tickets in hopes she’d join you, but if you want to play it a bit safer, pretend you just happen to have them. Note: If she passes on a kickass offer, she’s probably not worth your time anyway, and you can find someone cooler to take in her place.
Example: “Hey, I have tickets to next week’s Foo Fighters show and my buddy just bailed—any chance you’d like to join? I promise not to sing along too loudly.”

The post These 5 Texts Will Win Her Over Instantly appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613401121) } [5]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(34) "Is Tinder Killing the Dating Game?" ["link"]=> string(72) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/is-tinder-killing-the-dating-game/" ["comments"]=> string(80) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/is-tinder-killing-the-dating-game/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:50:30 +0000" ["category"]=> string(25) "Dating Advicedatingtinder" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6971" ["description"]=> string(579) "

I sat, laptop open, PowerPoint presentation blinking, beer sparkling, Sunday evening, 10:00pm. I always hated that guy: The guy who just has to bring everyone down with the sight of work. But I had to finish this thing, and as lovely as the rooms at the London Edition are, its lobby bar is even nicer. Besides, […]

The post Is Tinder Killing the Dating Game? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(6466) "

I sat, laptop open, PowerPoint presentation blinking, beer sparkling, Sunday evening, 10:00pm. I always hated that guy: The guy who just has to bring everyone down with the sight of work. But I had to finish this thing, and as lovely as the rooms at the London Edition are, its lobby bar is even nicer. Besides, I figured Londoners would be cool with a lonely American doing his thing in a WiFi-enabled lobby on a Sunday evening, 10:00pm.

“Oh, no, mate,” the dude to my left slurred. “No worky worky here!”

He went as far as to tap at my keyboard. No one taps at my keyboard.

“I just gotta finish this one thing…”

“But look at the lovely girl next to you!”

She was indeed lovely. But I was married and I had work to do.

“She is indeed lovely, but I am married and I have work to do.”

She smiled. She liked being called lovely, I suppose.

“So what are you working on?” she asked.

Turned out she was waiting for a Tinder date (“Tinder Mike”, she called him). Tinder is a relatively new thing in London, and she explained that it’s changing the way people date there.

“Before Tinder, you didn’t date more than one person at a time. It was frowned upon. But now, it’s all so short-lived. Meet up with someone, determine if you like him within the first hour, and either move on or go to the next level. And even if you do go to the next level, you probably have someone else on the backburner from another swipe.”

Holy shit, I realized: Tinder is changing the way people outside America think about dating.

Could it be that our new addiction to brute-force dating is undermining thousands—maybe millions—of possible loves at second—or third—sight?

I argued that this is a good thing — that being honest and not leading anyone on makes dating a lot more efficient and saves daters tons of wasted time. There’s nothing worse than going on a full date (full meaning dinner, drinks, conversation, maybe a kiss at the end), thinking that person likes you, and then finding out that was all an act, that she was just being nice.

But isn’t simply knowing that she’s not into it sooner than later a lower cliff from which to fall? Isn’t it better to know sooner than later before you develop feelings?

Online dating, especially via apps like Tinder, accelerate the process: They ask us to quickly choose who we’d date, send a message, and decide within a few exchanges if we’d like to go out. It’s a statistics game. Everyone using Tinder has multiple conversations active. They don’t close other chats if they’ve found someone of interest, even if they go out. They even go out thinking about their next date, even reminiscing and comparing to the date from the night before. It’s fishing. It’s job interviews. It’s batting averages (proessional baseball players are considered Hall-of-Fame caliber if they can hit 3 out of 10 balls for hits!). We’re just looking for the best candidate for a very demanding job. This is a good thing, right? We’re all increasing the possibility that we’ll find the one.

Right?

And it’s something Londoners are just now getting used to.

My new friend explained that, for the first time, it’s okay for women in London to go on multiple dates within a week. It used to be that you’d be labeled as a man player or whatever it is they call women who date a lot. People are excited about this new, statistically favorable method, and they’re doing it a lot.

But she asked me something that made me wonder if we’re heading down a destructive path: “Haven’t you ever changed your mind even after that first date wasn’t so great? Didn’t you ever realize that you really did like that person?”

I have. Multiple times. In fact, some of my best relationships started with a bad date.

Could it be that our new addiction to brute-force dating is undermining thousands—maybe millions—of possible loves at second—or third—sight?

Sure, there’s that one-in-a-thousand instant chemistry date written in Hollywood, but there’s also that “Wow, I think I actually like her” realization written in New York, and that, too, can be a beautiful thing.

There’s this episode of Louie (Season 4 I believe) that begins with him approaching a woman who works at a comedy club, obviously pining for a date in that creepy-awkward way only Louie can display. Before he can ask her out, she half turns to him, avoiding eye contact, and implores him to “just not ask”.

He’s confused as she disappears, and another worker turns to him and just says, “Louie, you can’t ask everyone.”

He doesn’t get it, but it seems this girl in the lobby of the London Edition does. Sometimes you can’t – shan’t – ask every woman out. Sometimes you need time to determine if that one you realized within an hour wasn’t the one just could be… the one.

Oh, and good luck, Tinder Mike. She really is lovely.

The post Is Tinder Killing the Dating Game? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(77) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/is-tinder-killing-the-dating-game/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(579) "

I sat, laptop open, PowerPoint presentation blinking, beer sparkling, Sunday evening, 10:00pm. I always hated that guy: The guy who just has to bring everyone down with the sight of work. But I had to finish this thing, and as lovely as the rooms at the London Edition are, its lobby bar is even nicer. Besides, […]

The post Is Tinder Killing the Dating Game? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(6466) "

I sat, laptop open, PowerPoint presentation blinking, beer sparkling, Sunday evening, 10:00pm. I always hated that guy: The guy who just has to bring everyone down with the sight of work. But I had to finish this thing, and as lovely as the rooms at the London Edition are, its lobby bar is even nicer. Besides, I figured Londoners would be cool with a lonely American doing his thing in a WiFi-enabled lobby on a Sunday evening, 10:00pm.

“Oh, no, mate,” the dude to my left slurred. “No worky worky here!”

He went as far as to tap at my keyboard. No one taps at my keyboard.

“I just gotta finish this one thing…”

“But look at the lovely girl next to you!”

She was indeed lovely. But I was married and I had work to do.

“She is indeed lovely, but I am married and I have work to do.”

She smiled. She liked being called lovely, I suppose.

“So what are you working on?” she asked.

Turned out she was waiting for a Tinder date (“Tinder Mike”, she called him). Tinder is a relatively new thing in London, and she explained that it’s changing the way people date there.

“Before Tinder, you didn’t date more than one person at a time. It was frowned upon. But now, it’s all so short-lived. Meet up with someone, determine if you like him within the first hour, and either move on or go to the next level. And even if you do go to the next level, you probably have someone else on the backburner from another swipe.”

Holy shit, I realized: Tinder is changing the way people outside America think about dating.

Could it be that our new addiction to brute-force dating is undermining thousands—maybe millions—of possible loves at second—or third—sight?

I argued that this is a good thing — that being honest and not leading anyone on makes dating a lot more efficient and saves daters tons of wasted time. There’s nothing worse than going on a full date (full meaning dinner, drinks, conversation, maybe a kiss at the end), thinking that person likes you, and then finding out that was all an act, that she was just being nice.

But isn’t simply knowing that she’s not into it sooner than later a lower cliff from which to fall? Isn’t it better to know sooner than later before you develop feelings?

Online dating, especially via apps like Tinder, accelerate the process: They ask us to quickly choose who we’d date, send a message, and decide within a few exchanges if we’d like to go out. It’s a statistics game. Everyone using Tinder has multiple conversations active. They don’t close other chats if they’ve found someone of interest, even if they go out. They even go out thinking about their next date, even reminiscing and comparing to the date from the night before. It’s fishing. It’s job interviews. It’s batting averages (proessional baseball players are considered Hall-of-Fame caliber if they can hit 3 out of 10 balls for hits!). We’re just looking for the best candidate for a very demanding job. This is a good thing, right? We’re all increasing the possibility that we’ll find the one.

Right?

And it’s something Londoners are just now getting used to.

My new friend explained that, for the first time, it’s okay for women in London to go on multiple dates within a week. It used to be that you’d be labeled as a man player or whatever it is they call women who date a lot. People are excited about this new, statistically favorable method, and they’re doing it a lot.

But she asked me something that made me wonder if we’re heading down a destructive path: “Haven’t you ever changed your mind even after that first date wasn’t so great? Didn’t you ever realize that you really did like that person?”

I have. Multiple times. In fact, some of my best relationships started with a bad date.

Could it be that our new addiction to brute-force dating is undermining thousands—maybe millions—of possible loves at second—or third—sight?

Sure, there’s that one-in-a-thousand instant chemistry date written in Hollywood, but there’s also that “Wow, I think I actually like her” realization written in New York, and that, too, can be a beautiful thing.

There’s this episode of Louie (Season 4 I believe) that begins with him approaching a woman who works at a comedy club, obviously pining for a date in that creepy-awkward way only Louie can display. Before he can ask her out, she half turns to him, avoiding eye contact, and implores him to “just not ask”.

He’s confused as she disappears, and another worker turns to him and just says, “Louie, you can’t ask everyone.”

He doesn’t get it, but it seems this girl in the lobby of the London Edition does. Sometimes you can’t – shan’t – ask every woman out. Sometimes you need time to determine if that one you realized within an hour wasn’t the one just could be… the one.

Oh, and good luck, Tinder Mike. She really is lovely.

The post Is Tinder Killing the Dating Game? appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613400630) } [6]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(36) "6 Mantras to Meet and Marry Your Man" ["link"]=> string(75) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/6-mantras-to-meet-and-marry-your-man/" ["comments"]=> string(83) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/6-mantras-to-meet-and-marry-your-man/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:17:42 +0000" ["category"]=> string(82) "Relationship Adviceadviceappreciationmarriagemeetrelationship successrelationships" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6968" ["description"]=> string(570) "

No matter how hard we try and convince ourselves that we really don’t need a man and the hassles of dating and we’re just fine on our own, we have to admit that men and romance have an important place in our lives. (At times we even live vicariously through others.) Having the right man (aka. […]

The post 6 Mantras to Meet and Marry Your Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(6242) "

No matter how hard we try and convince ourselves that we really don’t need a man and the hassles of dating and we’re just fine on our own, we have to admit that men and romance have an important place in our lives. (At times we even live vicariously through others.)

Having the right man (aka. Your man) can make your life easier and more comfortable and give you amazing opportunities to experience yourself in ways that are not possible when you’re single.

So how can you attract your man?  Especially when you’ve tried everything you can think of to do!

The good news is you usually don’t have to work harder or stress as much as you do now.  You just have to learn how to look at relationships in a new way.

It starts with how you think.

In my coaching programs, I spend as much time teaching how to reframe who we are in relationships in a way that serves us as I do the understanding and information on how we act and communicate differently as men and women.

Why? Because it’s through understanding who we are in relationship that makes all the difference in how we relate to another.

When we reframe our attitudes and belief systems around relationships, then combine them with the understanding of how we operate as men and women we dramatically increase our chances of having a long-term, successful, intimate relationship!

To help you start rethinking and bringing love into your life, here are six mantras you can say to help you meet and marry your man.

Mantra #1: “I am responsible for my relationship success.”

We alone are responsible for our relationship success (or lack of it.) Know that where you are right now in terms of relationship success is a direct result of your own actions. Blaming other people or circumstances will prevent you from moving forward in love.

If you truly believe your circumstances are attributable to the actions of others and that you were powerless and had no control over your situation, you are also powerless to change your life now. The good news is, accepting responsibility for your relationship success gives you complete permission and the power to build the future you’ve always wanted.

We are responsible in creating our own lives–life doesn’t just happen to us. You need to believe the same if you want to improve your love life and your romantic relationships.

Mantra #2: “I learn about relationships from people who have successful romantic relationships.”

Consider who are you taking relationship advice from: single friends and family who struggle with dating and divorce, single dating coaches or successful mentors who have proven they know how to make a marriage last?

Successful people take advice from more successful people than they are in most businesses as well as love.  They also continually learn and advance their knowledge about relationships, communication and what it takes to have a long-term, intimate, continuous relationship. Take time to learn from those who know and get support.

Mantra #3: “I take care of myself first.”

Until you learn how to really take care of yourself, the universe will not support you. Learning to love and take care of yourself requires discipline. It means not doing something for someone else unless you feel good about doing it.

It means taking care of yourself by working out, eating well, getting rest and staying away from toxic men and toxic situations.
If you don’t take care of yourself and feel good, you ain’t good for anyone else.

Mantra #4: “I am open, available and receptive.”

When you want a romantic relationship, you must be open and available to receive what the universe presents.  Are you seeing opportunities, potential dates and romance? Or are you seeing no available men, no dates and only geeks?

Love comes from unexpected places.  Often we’re quick to judge the external package before getting to know the person inside.  Do your best to stay open, available and receptive to those who present on your path.

Mantra #5: “I love to receive – especially from men.”

If you have trouble receiving what a man has to offer, you probably have trouble receiving love in relationships. It’s amazing how we think we’re receiving when we really aren’t.

It can be as simple as when a man says, “what a beautiful dress” and we respond, “Oh this?  I got it on sale.”  Without receiving the man’s compliment, we slam what he has to offer and deny his joy of giving.

This is something we need to work on constantly. Next time a man gives you a compliment, an invitation or a phone call, simply smile and say, “Thank you. I appreciate that.”

Mantra #6: “I enjoy giving back in appreciation.”

Just recently I was speaking with a friend over lunch. She was telling me about a new man she’s been seeing and how nice it is that he has taken her out several times.

When I asked her how she was giving back in appreciation, she looked at me and said, “I thought it was the man’s responsibility to take me out.”   It is initially, however when a man takes you out two or three times, give him something back in appreciation.

Cook him a meal.  Send him a card.  Invite him to a concert or dinner party.  Men like to feel appreciated for their generosity. It’s important for you to acknowledge and reward him when he does something nice for you.

The post 6 Mantras to Meet and Marry Your Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(80) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/6-mantras-to-meet-and-marry-your-man/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(570) "

No matter how hard we try and convince ourselves that we really don’t need a man and the hassles of dating and we’re just fine on our own, we have to admit that men and romance have an important place in our lives. (At times we even live vicariously through others.) Having the right man (aka. […]

The post 6 Mantras to Meet and Marry Your Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(6242) "

No matter how hard we try and convince ourselves that we really don’t need a man and the hassles of dating and we’re just fine on our own, we have to admit that men and romance have an important place in our lives. (At times we even live vicariously through others.)

Having the right man (aka. Your man) can make your life easier and more comfortable and give you amazing opportunities to experience yourself in ways that are not possible when you’re single.

So how can you attract your man?  Especially when you’ve tried everything you can think of to do!

The good news is you usually don’t have to work harder or stress as much as you do now.  You just have to learn how to look at relationships in a new way.

It starts with how you think.

In my coaching programs, I spend as much time teaching how to reframe who we are in relationships in a way that serves us as I do the understanding and information on how we act and communicate differently as men and women.

Why? Because it’s through understanding who we are in relationship that makes all the difference in how we relate to another.

When we reframe our attitudes and belief systems around relationships, then combine them with the understanding of how we operate as men and women we dramatically increase our chances of having a long-term, successful, intimate relationship!

To help you start rethinking and bringing love into your life, here are six mantras you can say to help you meet and marry your man.

Mantra #1: “I am responsible for my relationship success.”

We alone are responsible for our relationship success (or lack of it.) Know that where you are right now in terms of relationship success is a direct result of your own actions. Blaming other people or circumstances will prevent you from moving forward in love.

If you truly believe your circumstances are attributable to the actions of others and that you were powerless and had no control over your situation, you are also powerless to change your life now. The good news is, accepting responsibility for your relationship success gives you complete permission and the power to build the future you’ve always wanted.

We are responsible in creating our own lives–life doesn’t just happen to us. You need to believe the same if you want to improve your love life and your romantic relationships.

Mantra #2: “I learn about relationships from people who have successful romantic relationships.”

Consider who are you taking relationship advice from: single friends and family who struggle with dating and divorce, single dating coaches or successful mentors who have proven they know how to make a marriage last?

Successful people take advice from more successful people than they are in most businesses as well as love.  They also continually learn and advance their knowledge about relationships, communication and what it takes to have a long-term, intimate, continuous relationship. Take time to learn from those who know and get support.

Mantra #3: “I take care of myself first.”

Until you learn how to really take care of yourself, the universe will not support you. Learning to love and take care of yourself requires discipline. It means not doing something for someone else unless you feel good about doing it.

It means taking care of yourself by working out, eating well, getting rest and staying away from toxic men and toxic situations.
If you don’t take care of yourself and feel good, you ain’t good for anyone else.

Mantra #4: “I am open, available and receptive.”

When you want a romantic relationship, you must be open and available to receive what the universe presents.  Are you seeing opportunities, potential dates and romance? Or are you seeing no available men, no dates and only geeks?

Love comes from unexpected places.  Often we’re quick to judge the external package before getting to know the person inside.  Do your best to stay open, available and receptive to those who present on your path.

Mantra #5: “I love to receive – especially from men.”

If you have trouble receiving what a man has to offer, you probably have trouble receiving love in relationships. It’s amazing how we think we’re receiving when we really aren’t.

It can be as simple as when a man says, “what a beautiful dress” and we respond, “Oh this?  I got it on sale.”  Without receiving the man’s compliment, we slam what he has to offer and deny his joy of giving.

This is something we need to work on constantly. Next time a man gives you a compliment, an invitation or a phone call, simply smile and say, “Thank you. I appreciate that.”

Mantra #6: “I enjoy giving back in appreciation.”

Just recently I was speaking with a friend over lunch. She was telling me about a new man she’s been seeing and how nice it is that he has taken her out several times.

When I asked her how she was giving back in appreciation, she looked at me and said, “I thought it was the man’s responsibility to take me out.”   It is initially, however when a man takes you out two or three times, give him something back in appreciation.

Cook him a meal.  Send him a card.  Invite him to a concert or dinner party.  Men like to feel appreciated for their generosity. It’s important for you to acknowledge and reward him when he does something nice for you.

The post 6 Mantras to Meet and Marry Your Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613398662) } [7]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(37) "The Dos And Donts Of The E-Lationship" ["link"]=> string(76) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/the-dos-and-donts-of-the-e-lationship/" ["comments"]=> string(84) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/the-dos-and-donts-of-the-e-lationship/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 14:04:18 +0000" ["category"]=> string(63) "Relationship AdviceadvicecommunicationRelationshiprelationships" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6960" ["description"]=> string(644) "

Doing the long-distance thing used to be mad difficult. Even as recently as the mid-20th century, women used to have to get pregnant just to have something to remind them of husbands who had gone off to fight the good fight overseas, while the menfolk were left with naught but faded photos and moonshine-soaked memories to remind them of the female companionship […]

The post The Dos And Donts Of The E-Lationship appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(5785) "

Doing the long-distance thing used to be mad difficult. Even as recently as the mid-20th century, women used to have to get pregnant just to have something to remind them of husbands who had gone off to fight the good fight overseas, while the menfolk were left with naught but faded photos and moonshine-soaked memories to remind them of the female companionship they so desperately craved. These days, trans-zip code lovin’ isn’t necessarily easy, but information superhighways (and real superhighways, for that matter) have made things – in theory – considerably less frustrating. There are, however, some rules of the road that you should review before embarking on this overwhelming and confusing journey.

Don’t: Assume phone calls are the only way to communicate.

All too often, a well-meaning gent misses vital communication opportunities because he assumes that his lady only wants to hear from him when he has time for a two-hour phone call. This is a falsehood. No one has time for two-hour phone calls these days; with BBMing and pinging and txting and carrier pigeons, talking on the phone is for chumps, son. And doesn’t it seem to defeat the purpose of ‘staying in touch’ to ignore someone for weeks simply because you don’t have time for a marathon chatfest (Hint: It does)? In fact, it reminds me of an old chestnut I tend to call upon in these types of situations: “it’s like cutting off your nose to spite your face.” You might think it doesn’t make sense, but trust me. It does.

The rate of success in long-distance relationships is directly proportional to the level of communication achieved, so if you’re going to rely solely on your land line to sustain your relationship, then you might as well just send a breakup letter by pony express and start looking for a new girlfriend in the personal ads of your local newspaper. Don’t forsake the 1,000 ways to get in touch afforded by modern technology in favor of such an outdated method of communication as bi-weekly phone call. Your paramour doesn’t want to steal your free time, she just wants to hear that (1) you’re alive and (2) she’s on your mind, so in between your lengthier communiqués, shoot her a one-line email whenever you’re thinking about her, text her funny things that happen to you, or, if you must, call her when you know she won’t pick up and leave silly messages. As with most things, it’s a lot easier than you think.

Do: Figure out what her communication preferences are.

Some people don’t even know what Gchat is. (I know, right? It’s ludicrous.) To this end, do not assume that the object of your affection is capable of or interested in engaging in the same types of insta-communication as you are until you’ve actually discussed it. Even if her screen name shows up on your chat list (some people don’t realize they’ve been signed in to AIM since 1997), even if she sometimes responds to your text messages (some people don’t realize they’re being charged $2.75 for every outgoing text they send), and even if she writes on your wall four times in a row (some people only remember the existence of social networking when eavesdropping on their coworkers’ conversations), there is no guarantee that her messaging habits are anywhere in line with your preferences.

Case in point: if you wrongfully assume that she’s a BBM-aholic, then you run the risk of being disappointed when she reads your message and doesn’t respond right away. If, however, you start by casually asking her what she thinks of BBMing, then you might discover that she doesn’t know how to respond without deleting the original message. You then win, because you’ve sussed out some useful information about her, AND you get to teach her something, thereby demonstrating how smart, capable and awesome (read: fuckable) you are.

Don’t: Overdo it with the emoticons.

I pity the fool who punctuates every single sentiment he ever has with a “  ” or a “  ” (especially the latter, as all I can think about when I see it is how doofy the guy on the other end must look, which is not what I’d imagine he wants me thinking while he’s trying to put the moves on me from 3,000 miles away). Or “ :$ ”. Really, who came up with that? What is its purpose on this earth? Emoticons are the internet equivalent of laughing nervously and fiddling with whatever’s in your pockets to avoid looking directly at your date. It makes you look uncomfortable, which in turn makes you undesirable. Lame city, boys.

Now, I will admit that I enjoy a well-placed emoticon, especially when employed in an ironic-yet-sincere fashion, and we all respect the fact that sometimes you just need that happy little smiley to get your point across. Just cut yourself off after, let’s say, three, lest you become that emoti-crazy guy we make fun of to our friends over cosmos.

The post The Dos And Donts Of The E-Lationship appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(81) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/the-dos-and-donts-of-the-e-lationship/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(644) "

Doing the long-distance thing used to be mad difficult. Even as recently as the mid-20th century, women used to have to get pregnant just to have something to remind them of husbands who had gone off to fight the good fight overseas, while the menfolk were left with naught but faded photos and moonshine-soaked memories to remind them of the female companionship […]

The post The Dos And Donts Of The E-Lationship appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(5785) "

Doing the long-distance thing used to be mad difficult. Even as recently as the mid-20th century, women used to have to get pregnant just to have something to remind them of husbands who had gone off to fight the good fight overseas, while the menfolk were left with naught but faded photos and moonshine-soaked memories to remind them of the female companionship they so desperately craved. These days, trans-zip code lovin’ isn’t necessarily easy, but information superhighways (and real superhighways, for that matter) have made things – in theory – considerably less frustrating. There are, however, some rules of the road that you should review before embarking on this overwhelming and confusing journey.

Don’t: Assume phone calls are the only way to communicate.

All too often, a well-meaning gent misses vital communication opportunities because he assumes that his lady only wants to hear from him when he has time for a two-hour phone call. This is a falsehood. No one has time for two-hour phone calls these days; with BBMing and pinging and txting and carrier pigeons, talking on the phone is for chumps, son. And doesn’t it seem to defeat the purpose of ‘staying in touch’ to ignore someone for weeks simply because you don’t have time for a marathon chatfest (Hint: It does)? In fact, it reminds me of an old chestnut I tend to call upon in these types of situations: “it’s like cutting off your nose to spite your face.” You might think it doesn’t make sense, but trust me. It does.

The rate of success in long-distance relationships is directly proportional to the level of communication achieved, so if you’re going to rely solely on your land line to sustain your relationship, then you might as well just send a breakup letter by pony express and start looking for a new girlfriend in the personal ads of your local newspaper. Don’t forsake the 1,000 ways to get in touch afforded by modern technology in favor of such an outdated method of communication as bi-weekly phone call. Your paramour doesn’t want to steal your free time, she just wants to hear that (1) you’re alive and (2) she’s on your mind, so in between your lengthier communiqués, shoot her a one-line email whenever you’re thinking about her, text her funny things that happen to you, or, if you must, call her when you know she won’t pick up and leave silly messages. As with most things, it’s a lot easier than you think.

Do: Figure out what her communication preferences are.

Some people don’t even know what Gchat is. (I know, right? It’s ludicrous.) To this end, do not assume that the object of your affection is capable of or interested in engaging in the same types of insta-communication as you are until you’ve actually discussed it. Even if her screen name shows up on your chat list (some people don’t realize they’ve been signed in to AIM since 1997), even if she sometimes responds to your text messages (some people don’t realize they’re being charged $2.75 for every outgoing text they send), and even if she writes on your wall four times in a row (some people only remember the existence of social networking when eavesdropping on their coworkers’ conversations), there is no guarantee that her messaging habits are anywhere in line with your preferences.

Case in point: if you wrongfully assume that she’s a BBM-aholic, then you run the risk of being disappointed when she reads your message and doesn’t respond right away. If, however, you start by casually asking her what she thinks of BBMing, then you might discover that she doesn’t know how to respond without deleting the original message. You then win, because you’ve sussed out some useful information about her, AND you get to teach her something, thereby demonstrating how smart, capable and awesome (read: fuckable) you are.

Don’t: Overdo it with the emoticons.

I pity the fool who punctuates every single sentiment he ever has with a “  ” or a “  ” (especially the latter, as all I can think about when I see it is how doofy the guy on the other end must look, which is not what I’d imagine he wants me thinking while he’s trying to put the moves on me from 3,000 miles away). Or “ :$ ”. Really, who came up with that? What is its purpose on this earth? Emoticons are the internet equivalent of laughing nervously and fiddling with whatever’s in your pockets to avoid looking directly at your date. It makes you look uncomfortable, which in turn makes you undesirable. Lame city, boys.

Now, I will admit that I enjoy a well-placed emoticon, especially when employed in an ironic-yet-sincere fashion, and we all respect the fact that sometimes you just need that happy little smiley to get your point across. Just cut yourself off after, let’s say, three, lest you become that emoti-crazy guy we make fun of to our friends over cosmos.

The post The Dos And Donts Of The E-Lationship appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613397858) } [8]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(28) "The 5 Worst Ways to Break Up" ["link"]=> string(67) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/the-5-worst-ways-to-break-up/" ["comments"]=> string(75) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/the-5-worst-ways-to-break-up/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 13:58:15 +0000" ["category"]=> string(52) "Divorce And Breakupsbreak upbreak-upsbreakupbreakups" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6956" ["description"]=> string(581) "

It’s a fact: we’ve all been dumped. And anyone who says it doesn’t matter how it happens hasn’t, say, learned a relationship was over when the guy updated his Friendster “Who I Want to Meet” section with qualities you most definitely don’t possess. I know I’m dating myself here, but it’s true. I have never […]

The post The 5 Worst Ways to Break Up appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(5448) "

It’s a fact: we’ve all been dumped.

And anyone who says it doesn’t matter how it happens hasn’t, say, learned a relationship was over when the guy updated his Friendster “Who I Want to Meet” section with qualities you most definitely don’t possess. I know I’m dating myself here, but it’s true. I have never had a knowledge of fine wine or fluency in Spanish—skills that a guy I was dating announced he very much wanted in a woman on a now-abandoned social media site. Even more charming? When I called him to inquire about this update, he flew into a rage and ended things.

After sex, many women can feel like they’re at their most vulnerable. In other words, a post-coital break-up is among the worst ideas that exist.

Of course, he’s not the only guy to dump a gal in a terrible way. But after speaking to a selection of daters, I’ve determined the five worst ways to do the deed. They are:

The Ol’ Cheat-With-Her-Friend

Sure, it sounds like fun, but it’s arguably the most damaging to the psyche of the woman. And yet it goes on. “I was dating a girl who didn’t want to be exclusive with me and so I decided I wanted revenge—or more like I just wanted to be able to provoke some strong emotion out of her,” confesses Jonathan, 26. “Her best friend had always had a crush on me, and she didn’t know that I was seeing her, so I slept with the best friend and then waited for her to break the news.” Result? The first girl reached out, called him every name in the book and demanded to know why he’d done what he had done. “I know it isn’t healthy, but I finally got the emotions that I wanted out of her,” he says now. “Still, it was a terrible thing to do.”

The Post-Sex Sayonara

After sex, many women can feel like they’re at their most vulnerable. In other words, a post-coital break-up is among the worst ideas that exist. Jane, 33, lived to tell the tale. “My boyfriend and I had just had sex and I suddenly found myself telling him I loved him,” she recalls. “He responded, ‘I just don’t feel that way.’ I went, ‘We just had sex! Are you kidding?’ And all he responded with was, ‘I just don’t know what to say.’” Years later, Jane got involved with this guy again—“I really thought I loved him”—and he dumped her yet again. But hey, on the upside, at least it wasn’t after sex!

The Fade-Away

Just sort of ceasing to participate in the relationship is also high on the list of how cowards escape, and I think we’ve all been guilty of it at one time or another. Aaron, 35, just quit returning the phone calls of a girl he’d been dating for a few months “once I got tired of her attitude.” When the girl found out Aaron was seeing someone else, she called him, devastated. “It wasn’t fair to her,” Aaron says now. “And we lived in the same small college town so every time I ran into her—which was all the time—she wanted to talk about it.”

What do these lame lines have in common? They’re still better than the stuff in this story!

The Dump-Her-Because-She-Dumped-You

Breaking up can be a battle of egos, especially when the egos involved are fragile. Rebecca, 36, learned this the hard way when for six months she dated a guy with whom she argued with all the time. “I tried and tried to make it work but then finally sat him down and said, ‘I think you and I both know this just isn’t working,’ ” she says. “He convinced me to keep trying to work things out and promised things would be different. The next day I called him to make a plan and he said, ‘You know, let’s not date anymore.’ I guess he just wanted to be the one to do it?”

The Angry Adios

When a couple is passionate, breaking up, having make-up sex and doing it all over again can be a way of life. But for some, one snap can mean the end. “I went to dinner with a girl I’d been dating for two months and she snapped her fingers at our waiter,” recalls Brian, 28. “When we got to her house afterwards, I said, ‘If you could do that to someone, you have no place around me so please don’t call me again.’ And then I drove off.” While Brian has no regrets—“She deserved it,” he says—as the recipient of an angry rejection (see intro), I still believe it’s better to make the break when you’re not pissed off.

The post The 5 Worst Ways to Break Up appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(72) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/the-5-worst-ways-to-break-up/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(581) "

It’s a fact: we’ve all been dumped. And anyone who says it doesn’t matter how it happens hasn’t, say, learned a relationship was over when the guy updated his Friendster “Who I Want to Meet” section with qualities you most definitely don’t possess. I know I’m dating myself here, but it’s true. I have never […]

The post The 5 Worst Ways to Break Up appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(5448) "

It’s a fact: we’ve all been dumped.

And anyone who says it doesn’t matter how it happens hasn’t, say, learned a relationship was over when the guy updated his Friendster “Who I Want to Meet” section with qualities you most definitely don’t possess. I know I’m dating myself here, but it’s true. I have never had a knowledge of fine wine or fluency in Spanish—skills that a guy I was dating announced he very much wanted in a woman on a now-abandoned social media site. Even more charming? When I called him to inquire about this update, he flew into a rage and ended things.

After sex, many women can feel like they’re at their most vulnerable. In other words, a post-coital break-up is among the worst ideas that exist.

Of course, he’s not the only guy to dump a gal in a terrible way. But after speaking to a selection of daters, I’ve determined the five worst ways to do the deed. They are:

The Ol’ Cheat-With-Her-Friend

Sure, it sounds like fun, but it’s arguably the most damaging to the psyche of the woman. And yet it goes on. “I was dating a girl who didn’t want to be exclusive with me and so I decided I wanted revenge—or more like I just wanted to be able to provoke some strong emotion out of her,” confesses Jonathan, 26. “Her best friend had always had a crush on me, and she didn’t know that I was seeing her, so I slept with the best friend and then waited for her to break the news.” Result? The first girl reached out, called him every name in the book and demanded to know why he’d done what he had done. “I know it isn’t healthy, but I finally got the emotions that I wanted out of her,” he says now. “Still, it was a terrible thing to do.”

The Post-Sex Sayonara

After sex, many women can feel like they’re at their most vulnerable. In other words, a post-coital break-up is among the worst ideas that exist. Jane, 33, lived to tell the tale. “My boyfriend and I had just had sex and I suddenly found myself telling him I loved him,” she recalls. “He responded, ‘I just don’t feel that way.’ I went, ‘We just had sex! Are you kidding?’ And all he responded with was, ‘I just don’t know what to say.’” Years later, Jane got involved with this guy again—“I really thought I loved him”—and he dumped her yet again. But hey, on the upside, at least it wasn’t after sex!

The Fade-Away

Just sort of ceasing to participate in the relationship is also high on the list of how cowards escape, and I think we’ve all been guilty of it at one time or another. Aaron, 35, just quit returning the phone calls of a girl he’d been dating for a few months “once I got tired of her attitude.” When the girl found out Aaron was seeing someone else, she called him, devastated. “It wasn’t fair to her,” Aaron says now. “And we lived in the same small college town so every time I ran into her—which was all the time—she wanted to talk about it.”

What do these lame lines have in common? They’re still better than the stuff in this story!

The Dump-Her-Because-She-Dumped-You

Breaking up can be a battle of egos, especially when the egos involved are fragile. Rebecca, 36, learned this the hard way when for six months she dated a guy with whom she argued with all the time. “I tried and tried to make it work but then finally sat him down and said, ‘I think you and I both know this just isn’t working,’ ” she says. “He convinced me to keep trying to work things out and promised things would be different. The next day I called him to make a plan and he said, ‘You know, let’s not date anymore.’ I guess he just wanted to be the one to do it?”

The Angry Adios

When a couple is passionate, breaking up, having make-up sex and doing it all over again can be a way of life. But for some, one snap can mean the end. “I went to dinner with a girl I’d been dating for two months and she snapped her fingers at our waiter,” recalls Brian, 28. “When we got to her house afterwards, I said, ‘If you could do that to someone, you have no place around me so please don’t call me again.’ And then I drove off.” While Brian has no regrets—“She deserved it,” he says—as the recipient of an angry rejection (see intro), I still believe it’s better to make the break when you’re not pissed off.

The post The 5 Worst Ways to Break Up appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613397495) } [9]=> array(14) { ["title"]=> string(20) "Dont Be an Omega Man" ["link"]=> string(59) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/dont-be-an-omega-man/" ["comments"]=> string(67) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/dont-be-an-omega-man/#respond" ["dc"]=> array(1) { ["creator"]=> string(9) "Alex Wise" } ["pubdate"]=> string(31) "Mon, 15 Feb 2021 13:41:04 +0000" ["category"]=> string(58) "Interestingalpha maleflirtflirtingFornicatemanmenomega man" ["guid"]=> string(34) "https://blog.loveawake.com/?p=6949" ["description"]=> string(628) "

In the ever-expanding 3-ring circus run by Judd Apatow, classical masculinity is being eschewed for the schlubby, dopey, omega male. If you’re unfamiliar with the terminology, there are three types of men in this world: alphas, betas, and omegas. It’s pretty much like a wolf pack. Alpha men are typically type-A personalities. They’re driven, aggressive, and ambitious and they […]

The post Dont Be an Omega Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["content"]=> array(1) { ["encoded"]=> string(6985) "

In the ever-expanding 3-ring circus run by Judd Apatow, classical masculinity is being eschewed for the schlubby, dopey, omega male. If you’re unfamiliar with the terminology, there are three types of men in this world: alphas, betas, and omegas. It’s pretty much like a wolf pack.

Alpha men are typically type-A personalities. They’re driven, aggressive, and ambitious and they tend to be professionally and personally successful. They’re driven to succeed and exceed expectations. These are the captains of industry, professional athletes, and world leaders. Beta men are more content to stay the course and “just get by.” These are the guys that are middle managers that need some management themselves. They don’t innovate or create, they grind it out and hope for the best. They tend to be moderately successful in both personal and professional realms. 

Then, there is the omega man. A despondent, a-directional person that is apathetic about their life to the point of self-sacrifice.   These are your failed musicians and painters (and definitely writers) that work sorrowfully at some night shift job they hate but are too apathetic about to change. They’re becoming romanticized in popular cinema (herehereherehere, and here), and that needs to stop. Here’s how to eschew your omega-ness.

Flirt

You should flirt with girls. Even if you are in a committed relationship. We’ve written about flirting a lot, but we’ll add more here. There was a great coach, once, that said “just because all my money is on one horse, that doesn’t mean I can’t still watch the races.” One important reminder, though, is that you don’t want to appear to be flirting.  Desperate flirting is the opposite of what you want.  You want to appear to be an inherently sexual, confident man.  Probably your best weapon in the war to be that, though, is to practice a little light flirting. Some specific things you should do: be the first to initiate physical contact. It can be as simple as a hand on the shoulder or on her lower back to guide her through a door you’ve opened. Find and maintain eye contact aggressively. The more you look away, the less interested she’ll perceive you as being. Use sexual innuendo sparingly. Crass jokes communicate to women desperation.  Avoid them; that is something for the omega men. 

Flex

Probably you shouldn’t literally flex, but figuratively you ought to. By that we mean you should participate in one upmanship. This is a bit of a tricky line to walk – you don’t want to come off as cocky or arrogant, but you should come off as sure of yourself. Offer anecdotes that subtly highlight your professional, athletic, or romantic successes without making them the mainstay of the story. If somebody says they were skiing the previous weekend, bait them into asking about your (superior) abilities by asking specific questions about their technique and terrain preferences. 

Front-run

Choose to be a decision maker. If there’s something up in the air, claim it. Suggest drinks and food for others and generally assert your will. Decide where a group is going to spend the evening. Most people aren’t leaders (that is guaranteed to be true statistically, but also happens to be socially true), and are surprisingly easy to corral into whatever you want them to do. Not only do you get to do what you want, now, but you will be seen as the clear Jack of the group. In the workplace, this equates to innovating. Take the reigns of something that isn’t in your job description. Start a new campaign. Pitch your higher-ups constantly with ideas, projects, and improvements, especially if they haven’t asked for any of them. 

Fornicate

This is mostly for you fellas with steady gals. We’d hate to promote promiscuity, but there is little that can exude your masculinity to a woman of your interest than taking her to the south pole. This is especially true because, these days, people are undersexed. The economics of sexuality, then, raise the value your naughty rompings.  Bonus: you’re getting laid. 

If nothing else, consider this illustration by the crazy-talented Brandon Bird depicting the devolution of the leading man. Don’t be a Seth Rogen. 

The post Dont Be an Omega Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" } ["wfw"]=> array(1) { ["commentrss"]=> string(64) "https://blog.loveawake.com/2021/02/15/dont-be-an-omega-man/feed/" } ["slash"]=> array(1) { ["comments"]=> string(1) "0" } ["summary"]=> string(628) "

In the ever-expanding 3-ring circus run by Judd Apatow, classical masculinity is being eschewed for the schlubby, dopey, omega male. If you’re unfamiliar with the terminology, there are three types of men in this world: alphas, betas, and omegas. It’s pretty much like a wolf pack. Alpha men are typically type-A personalities. They’re driven, aggressive, and ambitious and they […]

The post Dont Be an Omega Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["atom_content"]=> string(6985) "

In the ever-expanding 3-ring circus run by Judd Apatow, classical masculinity is being eschewed for the schlubby, dopey, omega male. If you’re unfamiliar with the terminology, there are three types of men in this world: alphas, betas, and omegas. It’s pretty much like a wolf pack.

Alpha men are typically type-A personalities. They’re driven, aggressive, and ambitious and they tend to be professionally and personally successful. They’re driven to succeed and exceed expectations. These are the captains of industry, professional athletes, and world leaders. Beta men are more content to stay the course and “just get by.” These are the guys that are middle managers that need some management themselves. They don’t innovate or create, they grind it out and hope for the best. They tend to be moderately successful in both personal and professional realms. 

Then, there is the omega man. A despondent, a-directional person that is apathetic about their life to the point of self-sacrifice.   These are your failed musicians and painters (and definitely writers) that work sorrowfully at some night shift job they hate but are too apathetic about to change. They’re becoming romanticized in popular cinema (herehereherehere, and here), and that needs to stop. Here’s how to eschew your omega-ness.

Flirt

You should flirt with girls. Even if you are in a committed relationship. We’ve written about flirting a lot, but we’ll add more here. There was a great coach, once, that said “just because all my money is on one horse, that doesn’t mean I can’t still watch the races.” One important reminder, though, is that you don’t want to appear to be flirting.  Desperate flirting is the opposite of what you want.  You want to appear to be an inherently sexual, confident man.  Probably your best weapon in the war to be that, though, is to practice a little light flirting. Some specific things you should do: be the first to initiate physical contact. It can be as simple as a hand on the shoulder or on her lower back to guide her through a door you’ve opened. Find and maintain eye contact aggressively. The more you look away, the less interested she’ll perceive you as being. Use sexual innuendo sparingly. Crass jokes communicate to women desperation.  Avoid them; that is something for the omega men. 

Flex

Probably you shouldn’t literally flex, but figuratively you ought to. By that we mean you should participate in one upmanship. This is a bit of a tricky line to walk – you don’t want to come off as cocky or arrogant, but you should come off as sure of yourself. Offer anecdotes that subtly highlight your professional, athletic, or romantic successes without making them the mainstay of the story. If somebody says they were skiing the previous weekend, bait them into asking about your (superior) abilities by asking specific questions about their technique and terrain preferences. 

Front-run

Choose to be a decision maker. If there’s something up in the air, claim it. Suggest drinks and food for others and generally assert your will. Decide where a group is going to spend the evening. Most people aren’t leaders (that is guaranteed to be true statistically, but also happens to be socially true), and are surprisingly easy to corral into whatever you want them to do. Not only do you get to do what you want, now, but you will be seen as the clear Jack of the group. In the workplace, this equates to innovating. Take the reigns of something that isn’t in your job description. Start a new campaign. Pitch your higher-ups constantly with ideas, projects, and improvements, especially if they haven’t asked for any of them. 

Fornicate

This is mostly for you fellas with steady gals. We’d hate to promote promiscuity, but there is little that can exude your masculinity to a woman of your interest than taking her to the south pole. This is especially true because, these days, people are undersexed. The economics of sexuality, then, raise the value your naughty rompings.  Bonus: you’re getting laid. 

If nothing else, consider this illustration by the crazy-talented Brandon Bird depicting the devolution of the leading man. Don’t be a Seth Rogen. 

The post Dont Be an Omega Man appeared first on Loveawake.com blog.

" ["date_timestamp"]=> int(1613396464) } } ["channel"]=> array(8) { ["title"]=> string(18) "Loveawake.com blog" ["link"]=> string(26) "https://blog.loveawake.com" ["description"]=> string(27) "Free dating tips and advice" ["lastbuilddate"]=> string(31) "Fri, 26 Feb 2021 15:22:40 +0000" ["language"]=> string(5) "en-US" ["sy"]=> array(2) { ["updateperiod"]=> string(9) " hourly " ["updatefrequency"]=> string(4) " 1 " } ["generator"]=> string(30) "https://wordpress.org/?v=5.5.3" ["tagline"]=> string(27) "Free dating tips and advice" } ["textinput"]=> array(0) { } ["image"]=> array(0) { } ["feed_type"]=> string(3) "RSS" ["feed_version"]=> string(3) "2.0" ["encoding"]=> string(5) "UTF-8" ["_source_encoding"]=> string(0) "" ["ERROR"]=> string(0) "" ["WARNING"]=> string(0) "" ["_CONTENT_CONSTRUCTS"]=> array(6) { [0]=> string(7) "content" [1]=> string(7) "summary" [2]=> string(4) "info" [3]=> string(5) "title" [4]=> string(7) "tagline" [5]=> string(9) "copyright" } ["_KNOWN_ENCODINGS"]=> array(3) { [0]=> string(5) "UTF-8" [1]=> string(8) "US-ASCII" [2]=> string(10) "ISO-8859-1" } ["stack"]=> array(0) { } ["inchannel"]=> bool(false) ["initem"]=> bool(false) ["incontent"]=> bool(false) ["intextinput"]=> bool(false) ["inimage"]=> bool(false) ["current_namespace"]=> bool(false) ["last_modified"]=> string(31) "Fri, 26 Feb 2021 15:22:40 GMT " ["etag"]=> string(36) ""7957f0360e558496d313aa87db4b547c" " }